It’s hard to believe that time has us all looking into the final days of 2011 and soon the beginning of the New Year. It’s also hard to believe 347 days have gone by here at The Promise 365.
It seems everything is wrapping up these days.
In fact, tonight, I even watched the season finale of The Biggest Loser.
And, while I love the emotional roller coaster of that fairytale weight loss show where dreams come true on TV, I can’t help but think about that word: loser.
What does it mean to win at losing?
Or lose to win?
Last week I learned something surprising from Nan Lu, a doctor of traditional Chinese medicine (TCM). He believes that every successful diet book must have a villain — sometimes it’s carbs, or calories, or sugar or meat or a combination of foods, choosing the right ones and avoiding the bad ones. But there is always a story of diet drama in deciding what to lose.
In his practice he avoids the term “losing weight” because it implies exactly that — you have lost something. And, he points out that when we lose something we try to get it back.
Instead of “losing” Nan Lu encourages patients to “give up” their extra weight.
It makes me think of everything I have given up this year.
Shopping. New Clothes. New Shoes. Excess sugar. Caffeine.
And, in the process of giving up some habits that didn’t serve me well, I have made space for other activities, like: beginning to cook, writing, meditating, yoga, reading, breathing deeper and loving more.
Through all of this, I have also found a powerful magic inside myself which gives me the strength to give up something I never really knew I had — fear.
It’s amazing what can happen when you give up — there is no losing.
But, I guess, that shouldn’t surprise me, because I believe we can do anything for a year.
So, what will you give up in 2012?
While you think that over, please know I will still be here in many ways. In fact, I am developing my own promise for next year, and so happy to share that I will lead a virtual coaching group to help others who want to see their own promises followed through.
More on that soon… until then, sweet dreams for a New Year.