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BLOG – GIFT DAY 158 :: 30 days of love: make new friends

7 Jun

BLOG – GIFT DAY 158
30 days of love: make new friends

It’s DAY 28 over here of the 30 Days of Love. We’ve already had two yummy recipes and a week-long Giveaway, some treats, a sneeze, some wise words to the Class of 2013, some news, a Pop Quiz, 3 things I love, a biopsy, a call to say what you need to say, a prayer, a choice, a reminder of home, a sunrise, a road trip, a little joy, looking for a rainbow, there’s something to love, put your emphasis on joy, on the road again, going home, take a deep breath, courage to follow through, and now…

Make new friends. 

I find myself in a new world, new town, new people, a whole lot of newness.
And it feels like culture shock.

Where Boston has Red Sox fans, seaside clapboard houses, brick townhouses and lots of professionals running around…

Our new town, feels like a bit of the old west meets California dudes.

The first sign that I was in a strange place was waking up to mountains all around us.

The second was being advised to stay away from the “tweekers” (I don’t even know how to spell that).

“Tweekers?” I asked sounding stupid.

“Yeah, you know meth heads.”

Oh, right. What? 

But, then there is this amazing climate. The town of Grants Pass has a sign over the main street that reads, “It’s The Climate.”

Indeed it is. With winters that get as low as 40 degrees (quite a climate change from New England winters!) and summers as hot as the dessert, somehow the trees stay green all year long.

The Rogue River runs through it.

The natives seem to all have tattoos. No judgement (Justin has his own collection) I’m just saying, there are a lot of tattoos walking these streets.

And, there is an atmosphere of calm everywhere.

You might even call it friendliness. Which is jarring coming from cold New England.

Two — count that, two! – people came up to me today as I write this blog post at a cafe. For someone who has been sequestered in New England this is an amazing phenomenon.

My first reaction was, “wait a minute, you can SEE me?” Because, to be honest, in Boston people look right through you, as if we all walk the streets with invisible glasses to protect our idenities from being stolen.

But, here, I feel like I might already have two new friends. Then again, one of these new friendly-ites just told me that everyone knows everyone here. So maybe it’s just a way of life.

In contrast, while it took me years to make friends and meet people in Boston, they are they most loving and loyal people I have ever met.

And I miss them dearly.

“Make new friends, but keep the old. 
One is silver and the other gold.” 

More tomorrow.
Lovemore {fearless}
Jamie
{who is the last new friend you made?}

BLOG – GIFT DAY 136 :: 30 days of love: favorite tv show of all time

16 May

It’s DAY 6 over here of the 30 Days of Love. We’ve already had two yummy recipes and a week-long Giveaway underway!And, my love of today is this: 
Best TV Moments “EVAH”

I’m watching the FINALE of THE OFFICE tonight. It doesn’t seem possible that this show is already over. It’s definitely going out on top, at the right time, and all that jazz . . . but stil. 

So as write this between tears and saying goodbye to the gang at the office, today’s “love” is sharing some of the best TV moments I can remember.

(Hey, we got to do it now, before television is a thing of the past . . . if it isn’t already.)

The first finale I ever watched was M*A*S*H. I remember watching it with my parents and staying up super late, way past my bedtime. It was the first time I remember crying while watching TV.

And then there were my college friends, who I feel like I grew up with during my adult years, finding jobs, friends, boyfriends, weddings, and the whole bit.

And, of course, those other New Yorkers were right there too. I still remember the Green Day theme song from that final show:

“Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road
Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go
So make the best of this test, and don’t ask why
It’s not a question, but a lesson learned in time

It’s something unpredictable, but in the end is right,
I hope you had the time of your life.

So take the photographs, and still frames in your mind
Hang it on a shelf in good health and good time
Tattoos of memories and dead skin on trial
For what it’s worth it was worth all the while

It’s something unpredictable, but in the end is right,
I hope you had the time of your life.” 

So Dear Office Friends: I hope you had the time of your life. 
More tomorrow,

Lovemore (fearless),
JamieP.S. Would love to hear your best TV moments.
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GIFT DAY 051: riding the bus

20 Feb

I’m riding the bus today.

With a group of high school students.

They are talking about colleges and applications and debating the benefits of Brown University vs. Syracuse.

They are espousing the features of each of their dream colleges. The programs, the academics, the campus settings.

I wish I could tell them a secret.

I want to tap each of one on the shoulder and let them know that no matter where they go, the most important feature of college they take with them probably won’t be in the classroom.

My guess is, it will be in the dorms.
With the people and the friends they make.

I want to tell them they will make friends in four short years that will last a lifetime. I want to tell them they will drop everything, over a lifetime to be with those special friends no other life experience can replace.

I am on a bus today to go see my dear college roomie who lost her brother last week.

We can send emails. We can text back and forth. We can cry our eyes out over the phone. But, some things need to be said in person.

Sometimes you just have to hug it out.

I want to tell these high school students a secret. Finding your friends in college is like finding the most beautiful seeds that will bloom and grow together.

trees, jamie eslinger, the promise 365, thepromisedaily.com

And, being old friends is like turning into two solid trees, blocking the sun and wind for each other no matter which way it shines or blows.

More tomorrow.
Lovemore,
Jamie

GIFT DAY 036: welcome back bridget jones

5 Feb

She’s back.

Miss Bridget Jones, that is.

  

The first time I met Bridget I was on a plane.
Laughing out loud.

I was crying hysterically holding the book in front of my face trying to muffle my voice, desperately trying not to annoy the poor passengers sitting next to me.

I can’t remember the last time I read a book and burst out laughing.

In public.
On a plane.

Miss Bridget was just so funny and such a mess — and somehow incredibly sincere at the same time.

I hope this third book delivers.
Because Bridget brought me an ABUNDANCE of laughs.

The anticipation is like waiting for a visit from an old, high school friend.

Bridget-Jones-Diary_320

Welcome back Bridget.
Can’t wait to see what you’ve been up to.

More tomorrow.
Lovemore,
Jamie

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Day 212: buoyed in stormy weather

31 Jul

It’s a rainy day here, but all sunny inside.
My day started out doing yoga with a friend and ended up with us having dinner with family.

Doesn’t get better than that.

Even though it is pouring outside, and we are drenched from a ferry ride in the rain, I am all toasty on the inside.

It’s a recipe for goodness, isn’t it?

  • good exercise
  • good friends
  • good family
  • good food

As we left the ferry, dripping and drenched with raindrops the size of snowballs falling all around, every taxi driver standing under an umbrella in a line of cars tried to coax us into his cab.

“No thanks,” I said with a smile. “We’re walking!”

The old me would never have turn down a cab ride in the rain.
The new me seems pretty fearless these days, at the very least, I have learned it takes more than water to make me melt.

And, I think that’s what being buoyed by good exercise, friends, family and food can do for the head, heart, body and soul.

It’s like building strength from the inside out.
Even in stormy weather. 

Day 43: a love letter to friends

12 Feb

Tonight continues my commitment to more love and less fear this year.  For February, I am writing a love letter each day.  Tonight is dedicated to …friends.

Dear Friends (of New and Old):  

I’m not sure where or what I would be without you, dear friends.

They say you can’t pick your family but you can pick your friends.  And, I’m so thankful you picked me to share your life.

You have picked me up when my life split into a million pieces. You have pushed me to be more, think smarter, do better. You have been right by my side, seen me through my darkest moments, my biggest regrets, my best accomplishments and reminded me to lighten up and laugh a little more at times too.

I’m not sure where the line is drawn between acquaintance and friend.  And, I can’t quite pinpoint the moment when you and I crossed over from “meeting” each other to “can’t remember my life without you.”

More than anything, I love picking up the conversation right where we left off, even if it started one day, two years or three decades ago.

Whether we met in grade school, a college campus or across the office hallway, you have changed my life for good.

As the song goes:
Thank you for being a friend
Traveled down the road and back again
your heart is true you’re a pal and a confidant

There are some things so sacred they just can’t be put into words.
They must be seen. They must be felt. They must be sung.

And, you, dear friends of old and of new, are the music of my life.
For that, I sing your praises and I send you love.

Now and always.

Love,
Jamie

P.S. Thank you to our dear friends, Pam and Neil, for visiting tonight. Everything is always more beautiful when it is shared with friends — even the beach at sunset.

P.P.S. I love this photo of you two!

Day 312: hey y’all :: in the spirit of paula deen

8 Nov

We made it to Savannah, Georgia today, where I met Paula Deen.

She is shorter than I expected.
Well, actually, it was a cardboard cut out of Paula Deen (but seemingly just as animated!).

I had no idea there was an actual Paula Deen STORE.  You could not only buy Paula Deen cookbooks but also Paula Deen playing cards and Paula Deen candles at the retail store attached to The Lady and Sons.

I didn’t buy anything.
But we did stroll along E. Bay Street and the quaint shops until we found a little riverfront restaurant for lunch.  As we walked up the steps and Justin pulled open door, a man appeared from around the corner and informed us that the restaurant was closed.  Not “closed” for lunch and would reopen for dinner, but, rather closed for another six weeks.

Alrighty then.
Moving on.

The restaurant next door seemed to fit the bill so we decided to check out the menu. It seemed agreeable enough but when the waitress asked us if we wanted to sit inside or outside, we waffled.

This decision is typically easy for us, an equation of sorts.  If it dips below 80 degrees I prefer to be indoors.  But today was a nice day outside, and I had a jacket on, and it was waterfront dining.

I looked at Justin and said, “What do you think… Outside?“  knowing that he would prefer to be outdoors.

But Justin knew it was most likely below 80 degrees, therefore a frozen arctic zone that I could not handle.  So he politely prompted the waitress, “I think inside will be fine.” (I took it as a pure sign of love for me.)

Once seated I ordered a hot water, my usual these days.  The waitress raised one eyebrow and repeated my order, but added the words “JUST” in front of it, as in, you can’t JUST want a hot water and nothing else in it, can you?

I nodded both acknowledging my order and my craziness.

The hot water arrived and I held the warm cup in my hands just as my ears tuned into a voice standing behind me.  It was a man’s voice.  A man’s voice that I recognized.

I turned and saw, of all things, my friend’s father.  From Connecticut.  Standing right behind me, INSIDE the restaurant.  In Georgia.

I stood up and said his name letting the last syllable go up making it a question.  As in, is that really you, all the way from Connecticut standing behind me right here in Georgia?

His eyes blinked like he didn’t recognize me.  I became aware of the glasses sitting on my nose, he must not be able to recognize that it is me.  Just then he let out a large smile and exclaimed, “Jamie?!”

“Yes!” I smiled back.
And, right there inside the restaurant that was not our first choice, that was located next to the one that was closed, down the street from Paula Deen’s restaurant, off the highway that we drove from Massachusetts, I found friends.

But, that’s not the ironic part of this story.
The sweet irony is that this is a story of divorce, loss and separation. Because, when relationships end, sometimes, (well most times I suppose) the side effects reach far beyond the couple in question.

So, was my relationship with these people, who found themselves on the other side of a mutual friend’s divorce.  I haven’t seen them in years, and I suppose as we all stayed “out of it” we eventually became out of touch.

Not today.
It was as if all the stars aligned.  They were in Savannah for just one day.  We were there for just one lunch.  They chose to walk into a restaurant to ask for directions.  We chose to eat there only because our first choice of eateries was closed.

It seemed as if one door closed and indeed another opened.

As if Paula Deen herself was right there, tapping me on my shoulder, having me turn my head just in time to reach out and say, “Hey Y’All!”

And, that’s a recipe for a reunion that’s good for my soul.

Day 140: f*ing friday :: fashion

20 May

TGIF.
Today continues the weekly series, F*ing Fridays, which will coincidentally occur on Friday. I mentioned some of my favorite F words back on Day 5, including: Fearless, Fabulous, Fine, Fun, Faith, Freedom, Forgiveness, to name a Few.

Last week I dove into the word Flood.

Today’s F*ing Friday is dedicated to the word:
Fashion.

As in, fashionable finds.

Today I met a totally amazing woman, who is keeping thousands in fashion.
She’s not a stylists or a designer, but don’t be mistaken, she is a fashion diva!

Shannon Wilburn has created a movement of recycling by reselling children’s and maternity clothes and accessories through consignment sales events with her business called Just Between Friends.

Here’s a pic of Shannon and I at Tory Johnson’s Spark & Hustle Tour today in Orlando, Florida.

Here’s what I love about what Shannon created:

- she created a heart-led business with a mission
- she is recycling for the planet
- she is helping other women own “big” small businesses

And, what I also adore, is the fact that she is giving good clothes another chance, for a good cause.  Don’t we all need second chances along the road of life?

After I met Shannon I began thinking of my own outfit I wore today.

There I was standing in a half-used outfit.

My white cropped pants ~ from a friend’s pile of clothes headed to the thrift store
My open toed tan shoes ~ from Justin’s Mom as a hand-me down

In fact, ever since I started this little promise not to shop, not to buy frivolous item, not to purchase new shoes, I seem to have stumbled upon a gold mine of fashion finds.

It’s as if the clothes and shoes keep finding me.
Even more so, it is as if the universe is rewarding me in my own brand of “currency” ~  like, said “universe” is looking down and honoring my journey to take care of my head, heart, body & soul by sending me little gifts along the way.

Well, it’s working.
I haven’t missed a day yet…
And I feel committed, excited, and focused.

And, meeting the fabulous Shannon today reminded me of something I feel very strongly about: I believe clothes live on.

It’s why some people save their grandmother’s wedding dress.
It’s why some go gaga over vintage style.
And, it’s why I have a collection of Cindie’s clothes.

Friends and Fashion.
Two pretty powerful F words if you ask me.

And just between us friends…
I think Shannon has proven that good finds are always in fashion.

Day 83: make new friends

24 Mar

As I sit here at The Holiday Inn, rocking my favorite sweats and sweatshirt, I have something brewing inside.

There’s this thing about clothes, and image, and stories I am starting to feel.

Take these black and white sweats I am wearing, for instance.
They have been with me from the island of Martha’s Vineyard, through an entire cross country drive to the west coast, just to turn around and go all the way back the Eastern Time Zone.

These sweats have seen dessert, mountains, plains, beaches, arid cactus fields, and the entire width of Texas (almost three days worth of driving–JUST in Texas!).

They have zoomed through New Orleans for a beignet and coffee, and finally touched down on the shores of the Gulf of Mexico.

They have flown to Austin, Boston, Michigan and New York.

And, now, here they sit, in the Big Apple.

These sweats are becoming a part of me.

As you know, I’m not buying this year: no clothes, no shoes, no service.
Which makes packing for several climates quite a challenge.

But, as I leave the shopping behind and invest in myself (instead of my closet), I am appreciating my head, heart, body and soul more each and every day.

The clothes I do own are beginning to feel like old friends.

In fact today, when I posted this photo on Facebook from our adventures at Sirius XM radio with Debbie Phillips and Janette Barber, my high school friend Christi (who I adore despite the years and miles between us) wrote this on my wall:

“I’m starting to feel like those boots and I are old friends. :-)

And, she’s right.
They are old friends.
Just like Christy is to me.

It’s got me thinking of that Girl Scout song from my youth:
Make new friends and keep the old.
One is silver and the other’s gold.

What The Promise is teaching me is this:
After the year is over, I will go back to buying, I’m sure.
But, the body, the inside, the spirit, heart and head will never go back to playing second fiddle again.

The sweats and boots can come along for the ride too,
(if I’m not ready to burn them at the end of this 365 day experiment) as material friends may come and go.

But, my head, heart, body & soul,
now they are learning to be life-long friends.
(some silver, some gold).

And with that dear friends, I say goodnight from the Big Apple (just under midnight!).
xo-Jamie

Day 65: sunday night blues?

6 Mar

Tonight we headed west 5.3 miles to watch the sunset over the water.
It was beautiful, which was to be expected.

As the sun began to set, I was reminded of that dreaded disease:
The Sunday Night Blues.

I haven’t experienced full-bore Blues in a few years, not really since leaving Corporate America.

But, I clearly remember the moping around that began right around 3pm on a Sunday afternoon, just as soon the reality of a morning commute, a long week ahead, and a massive workload slowly made its way back into focus.

Tonight, a little bit of blues hit me just as the sun began to set.
It was a demarcation of the weekends official end with precious friends: one friend was already on a plane and two more are to leave in the morning.

But what a good reminder to soak in a fleeting moment.
The sunset was poignant, because I also know it will forever be a life long memory.

Beach Front Parking $3.00

Bottle of Wine: $11.00

6 Pack of Beer: $9.00

Sunset on the Beach:  Free.

Lifelong Memories: Priceless.

And really, aren’t memories some of the best investments?

Sunday night may represent the end of something good.
It’s certainly the end of reunion with friends for me, full of laughter, a few tears, new experiences and a lot of reminiscing.

But, I know it is also the beginning of something special too.
Tomorrow.

As Papa Sling always said: The sun will rise tomorrow.
Just one more opportunity for a beautiful sunset.


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