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Day 115: are you bored?

25 Apr

As a child, if I complained of being bored, my mother would always turn it around on me.

“You know what that means, don’t you?”
She would say with a smile and a hint at a laugh.

“If you’re bored, you’re boooooring!”

And who wants to be boring?
So, at a ripe old age of around ten I vowed never to be bored. I didn’t want to face the consequences.

I learned to invent distractions.
To busy myself with project after project after project. I made sure I always had something to do.

Still, at this age, I always have something to do.

If I don’t work, I play.
If I don’t play, I create, or write or draw, or call my friends, or invent errands. I make lists. I dream. I listen to music. I follow trends. I throw a tennis ball and Pup brings it back.

I used to shop, and search for great finds, but we know how that story ends.

I know how to busy myself.

So, imagine my surprise when an aha moment hit me in the head like a ton of bricks, or rather, a bar of chocolate.

This week I realized:
I eat.
Not to be bored.

I snack, to invent an event.

The post-cleanse month has us on a three meal a day plan, with no snacking in between. We get to eat whatever we want (except sugar or gluten, but otherwise it’s fair game) ~ but only 3 times a day.

This is a problem.
Not because I’m starving.
Not because I’m famished, shaking or withering away.
Because I have trained my body to eat every 2 hours.

I work for two hours and my body immediately thinks it’s snack time.
It’s like an internal clock, a true north sort of compass that goes off every 120 mintues, ringing the chow bell.

Break time!
Where’s my snack??

I would almost venture to say life without snacks is boring.
But, then,I would be labled a you-know-who. So, I won’t say that.

Instead, I will invent new breaks to take.

Here’s what I’ve come up with so far:
There’s the yoga break.
The sit on the porch break.
The take my hair out of a pony tail break.
The put my hair back in a pony tail break.
The meditation break.
The search for laundry to wash break.
The check Facebook break.

And, my favorite:
Throw Pup a tennis ball and watch him run away with it break.

If you’ve got good ones to add to this list, please share.
Oh! That just made me think of another one:
The making lists break.

Whew! I’m exhausted from all this list making.
I think I’ll take a break.

The question is …which one?

Day 48: if the skirt fits

17 Feb

Last week, at the DJ rock n’ roll yoga class I met a really nice yogi who lined up her mat next to mine.

As we awaited the power yoga sweat-a-thon, we chit-chatted, exchanged names and what we did, and I told her about this blog, and my promise.

Her response was…
“Oh, so you could still buy yoga clothes!”

And, I caught myself nodding back.
“Yes! Of course.”

A split second later, I realized, that NO, was the real answer. But, right then and there, the yoga class started and we all downward dogged.

Now, how do I lean over between upward dog and downward dog to explain to this new friend of mine that I kind-of lied? I didn’t mean to, I just got caught up in the moment of new friendship and wanting to be agreeable.

Quite possibly it was pre-class nerves that led me to nod back in the affirmative.

But, I lost the opportunity to correct it in the moment.
The class ended, we dragged our sweaty selves out the door into the cool night.

Au revoir!
Adiós!
Ah, shit!

So, please, let me set the record straight.
I can’t buy yoga clothes.
I can’t buy running clothes.
I can’t buy surfing, yachting, tennis, golf, scuba diving or curling clothes.

Wish I could bend the rules.
Especially after seeing this in my inbox the other day:

The truth is this:
As much as I want new yoga clothes or the totally fun and sporty running skirt pictured above on Athleta’s website, and the “performance and style” they promise; what I really want is the muscle tone in this model’s arms.

I want to be that girl.
The one who wakes up at the crack of dawn and runs effortlessly on the beach, with perfect form and without getting wet sand streaks plastered up the back of her legs.

Sure, I could drag my lazy ass out of bed at 5am and hightail it down to Vanderbilt beach. But, really, isn’t it much easier to just buy the picture of being a super goddess running on the beach than to burst out of bed in the morning?

Because I’m not buying clothes I am left with just one option…

Set the alarm clock.
While it’s not as easy, I know it is in line with my promise.
And something that could lead to both performance and a bit of style.

Because isn’t it really the muscle tone that makes me feel stylin’ under the surface?

Now, that, I can say YES to. For real.

Day 45: love, true love

14 Feb

“And on the 45th day she earned a hot rock massage.”
She says with a grin on her face.

Oh, wait! That’s me.

Today is officially Day 7 of the daily yoga practice which began last Tuesday. I promised myself a little reward, a super fabulous hot rock massage, if I could keep the streak alive for one whole week. That’s seven consecutive days, but who’s counting?

Today, I am here to report back.
I DID IT!

To some, I know, seven days straight of yoga is no earth shattering record. But, to me, it is. I can honestly say, “I have never done that before.”

I can also say, it feels great.
Sure, my muscles are sore and tight, but with each passing day I have been able to stretch further and longer. What feels even better than finally holding a high to low push up is knowing I set a goal, stuck with it, and followed through.

That is the beauty of a self-imposed goal.
I am in total control. It’s up to me to downward dog-it. I can’t sit around waiting for someone else to take over my yoga mat and do it for me.

Makes me think, where else in my life have I sat around and waited for others to take the first step?

Um… how about the obvious?
Valentine’s Day.

What a crazy holiday?
One where we are bombarded by images of people sitting and waiting for others to send flowers and chocolate. I mean, really?

I have had some amazingly wonderful and lovely surprises in my life on Valentine’s Day (last year, Justin filled an entire room full of pink and red balloons).

I have also had some really bleak, soul searching, how-did-I-end-up-so-lonely-on-Valentine’s-Day pity parties too, with Ben in one hand and Jerry in the other.

Aren’t both self-imposed?
I believe it is the expectation of love that drives the experience.

Note to self:
Just like yoga starts by taking the first step and placing your stubby toes on a mat, love starts inside YOU too.

It’s your job to shoot the arrow through your own heart, and then share love with the world. Love was meant for sharing.

Note to you:
If you’re reading tonight, I hope you find time to give yourself a little Valentine’s Day party full of love and self care. Whether or not your flowers have already arrived.

In the meantime, I will be finding room in my schedule for a hot rock massage!

Day 41: no more rack

10 Feb

As you know, I’m not shopping.
But, today, I spied a little tuxedo top.
It showed up in my email in-box, asking me to click on it.

Just one little click. What could be the harm?

It was so cute, fun, frilly and yet, so comfortable. It hails from the daily deals team at nomorerack. Can you guess the price?

Here’s a hint…

That’s right. 70% off.
It rung in right about $9.00.

“Nine Dollars?” you exclaim!
What a deal.

Sadly, not for me.
The Promise 365 has me denying my inner child the fashion fix she craves.
It also has me questioning, “why do you want this?”

As the tagline says: it’s a pretty match to a lively spirit.

Is it cute?  Yes.
Is it fun? Probably.
But, I don’t even know if it looks good on me, if it’s long enough to cover my elongated torso, if it hits me in all the right places, it if fits over the hip bones and covers ze buttocks.

So what is it?
Without a doubt, it’s the price.
$9.00

It feels like a steal.
And, it is.
It would steal away in my closet for a few years, right between the black cigarette ankle pants that are too tight and the Joes Jeans that are too big. It would camp out on a hanger for awhile, until I ran out of hangers and decided to double-up and cover up perfectly good shirts with another new shirt.

As you can guess, I said NO to nomorerack.
I will say YES to yoga tonight in order to keep my promise for a hot rock massage reward next week — if I can keep my streak alive until next Tuesday, that is.

The shirt may be super cute.
But, in my heart I know: a sound body and soul would be a much prettier match to a spirit that’s alive.

Day 38: are you stuck

7 Feb

Have a goal?
Want to reach it?
But. Just. Can’t. Get. Off. The. Couch?

Yeah, me too.
I WANT to do yoga every single day. I really have the best intentions to pull out my pocket yoga, or plethora of DVD’s off the shelf, or even high tail it over to Bala Vinyasa for a hot yoga class.

I feel great when I do it, my body loves it.
But I just don’t do it.

Why?
I don’t know. You tell me. Human nature, laziness, busy schedule, distractions?

Here is one of my favorite distractions.
I mean, who can resist cuddling with this cutey!

Sorry, got a little sidetracked there…

Where was I?
Oh, yeah, are you looking for a solution?

Stickk to it.

At the IIN Conference this weekend, Joshua Rosenthal shared this online promise system. It’s from the brainiacs at Yale University and as they say:

stickK empowers you to better your lifestyle. We offer you the opportunity, through ‘Commitment Contracts’, to show to yourself and others the value you put on achieving your goals.

Here’s how it works.
1) state your goal (lose weight, exercise, etc)
2) state your stakes (put money on it – can go to charity too)
3) decide on a referee (friend or foe)
4) make the commitment

I’m going to do a one week test of the system and will report back.
My Promise? To exercise — specifically, do yoga every single day for a week.

Beginning tomorrow.

What’s at stake?
My friend Laura gets to referee me.  I didn’t want to put money on the line, it doesn’t motivate me as much as a HOT. ROCK. MASSAGE. Sweet!

So, I do yoga, everyday this week, I get to treat myself to a massage. If I don’t do it … I buy Laura the massage. It’s a win-win really…. but, oh, how I love a hot rock massage. Can you say, motivation?!

So there, take that distractions and laziness.
I’m gonna stickk it to ya!

Day 25: age 27

25 Jan

Over the next few days, leading up to my 37th birthday (tomorrow!), I am reflecting and writing my younger self a few notes.

Today, age twenty-seven.
What would you say to your 27-year-old self?

Dear Jamie, Age 27

Hello, Ms. Smarty Pants!
You think you have it all figured out right now, but it’s just a veil covering the fear and uncertainty of approaching the big, bad, thirtieth birthday — and not feeling like you’ve done enough.

Please give yourself some credit.
You are a 10-year cancer survivor! You are a college graduate! YOU can even whip up a bowl of pasta in less than 20 minutes! Most of all, you are still here. Take comfort in the day-to-day and stop pressing. You have time. It will all happen, the career, the path, the purpose. I promise.

About the engagement…
It seems that everything has finally fallen into place, you have a sparkly new ring on your finger and one big, bustling life in Boston. Don’t stress about the wedding, at this point it doesn’t matter how it all comes together, it will happen. Please don’t forget your friends and family who will be there for you through all your transitions in life.

I know you miss Mama Sling.
She loved you very much. Even though it’s only been a few years since Mom died, I know you are left with overwhelming loss and grief. Even though you don’t admit it to yourself, you long for her everyday. She is still there for you. Sit silently with your thoughts and you will hear her voice.

Speaking of voices, try listening to yours.
There will be many differing opinions and pressures to be something other than you are, to pursue paths that aren’t quite you. Know this: you have a very strong gut. It is wise. Listen to it.

By the way, so what if your company failed!?
It was just your first one. You were only twenty-five! It’s not the last mistake you will make, but it’s one of the best lessons you will learn. Keep your head up.

And one more thing…
The whole world in 2001 is about to change in so many ways, so hold on tight. You will endure the ride, bumps and all. Just know, there will be friends waiting to collect you when you exit the ride and they will smother you with love.

Love will be there for you. Always.

Love,
Jamie, Age 36

P.S. Try a different haircut and stop biting your nails. It will be so worth it.

P.P.S. Go to a yoga class! You will enjoy it more than you did basketball.

P.P.P.S. You won’t believe this, but you will run a marathon. I’m serious.

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