We just returned from watching the movie, 127 Hours (where I grimaced, flinched, and hid my eyes for at least 30 minutes). Truly, it was a great escape, horror show and coming-of-age story all-in-one.
Upon return, I immediately checked my email and this question popped up on my computer screen:
I have a question, though, about the promise. You say you won’t buy clothes, but say you got holes in all of your socks, would you buy new socks? Just curious if that’s a hard-and-fast rule, or if there are loopholes or exceptions.
If my socks go all holy on me, I live with air conditioned socks until December 31, 2011.
If I need it I will borrow it, but I won’t buy it.
Let’s say Michelle Obama invited me to the White House and I didn’t have a suit, I would borrow from friends or some other person who wears the same size. (beware dear friends, you might get a call!)
Or, maybe I would dress up a suit I already own with borrowed jewelry… the point is, I believe I have everything I “need” to live my life this year. And, if that changes, I will borrow it.
I don’t want to make myself feel better, or more prepared, or more worthy through merely clothes, shoes, jewelry, or other adornment.
It would be easy for me to buy a pair of shoes or a new dress to make myself feel refreshed and invigorated (I know, because I have done exactly that in the past). The reality has always been I just needed rest and reflection, or a walk in the park, or some exercise.
It is a hard and fast rule.
Because, I want to invest in my best self.
Not just play the part.
I admit, sometimes, it is hard to tell the difference.
Kind of like the old adage: you should dress up on test day.
Sometimes I wonder: Did the pretty new dress make me outgoing and confident? Or, did the dress just bring my own confidence to the surface?
The truth is, it’s all inside.
Despite the many messages to women, young and old, that reinforce the image, not the substance. Honestly, just a stroll through the mall can feel like a great escape, horror show and coming-of-age story all-in-one.
I’m not fooling myself here — I still love dresses, soft cashmere and silk.
But, when the dress comes off I want to know I put everything in to what is left on.