F*ing Fridays are back!
And, they will continue to occur on Friday. I mentioned some of my favorite F words back on Day 5 in Year 1, including: Fearless, Fabulous, Fine, Fun, Faith, Freedom, Forgiveness, to name a Few.
Last week I dove into the word Flip Flops.
Today’s F*ing Friday is dedicated to the words:
As in, where is the love?
Love can be puzzling at times.
It’s so hugely, largely, enormous, that word. L.O.V.E.
It can mean so many things in various degrees – family, friends, lovers, partners, children, neighbors, community, this one spinning world.
I am learning that love IS all things in this LOVEMORE journey of mine
But, I am committed to learning more. So, this week I spent every night soaking in lessons on a critical piece of the puzzle at Love University, a program offered by En*theos Academy and Mastin Kipp from The Daily Love.
To break it down, love is …from a scientific view pretty cut and dry — male energy and female energy (no matter the coupling). This is based on much research and work from the likes of David Deida, Patricia Allen, Marianne Williamson, Allison Armstrong, and more.
The work is much deeper than my little brain can compute in this tiny little blog post, so I will focus on what stood out most for me: GODDESS TIME.
For people with a core of feminine energy (me for instance) the amygdala needs to be relaxed and worry free (not in fight or flight mode) in order to truly engage in deeply connected relationship love.
The answer? Settle down the amygdala. Turn off the f*ing fight or flight frenzy.
Enter: GODDESS TIME!
Otherwise known as self-care. Think bubble baths, meditation, yoga, and other ways to let feminine energy flow.
It’s amazing how something so simple can make such a huge difference. An hour to yourself. A commitment to be in charge of nothing. A peaceful moment. A deep breath.
Proven to be good for the mind, body, soul, as well as, finding and keeping LOVE!
But, not all relationships work out. So, what to do when the proverbial shit hits the relationship fan? Mastin recommended a mantra, or a call to a higher question.
- Where is the grace in this?
- How can I be even more love in this situation?
I think it’s a good practice to live by, no matter what problem, mess or complication we’re trying to solve — be it matters of the heart, career or community.
Personally, I can’t help but hear the Black Eyed Peas echoing through my head, “Where is the love, the love, the love?“
But, I know it’s hard to remember when life falls apart.
As a survivor of cancer, divorce, sugar addiction and the ultimate heartbreak of my mother’s death, I can testify that love keeps it all together, even when it seems there is nothing left.
And, I think it’s the best mantra when I need to find perspective in life, love and the pursuit of happiness.
Surviving with grace is like putting together a puzzle —
keeping love in view is like finding the corner pieces first.
With that, I leave you with the words of the Black Eyed Peas:
Take control of your mind and meditate
Let your soul gravitate to the love, y’all