Archive | December, 2012

Day 364: Dear 2012 :: Forgive. Forget. Forge Forward.

31 Dec

We are on our way to New York City…
To Times Square….
To watch the ball drop us all into the wee hours of 2013.

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It makes me realize there are so many things that run on auto-pilot until something comes along forcing us to snap out of it!

New Year’s Eve is one of those moments.

It’s one of those “snap out of it” things — forcing me to look into the oncoming year and vow to make it better, faster, smarter, bigger, more ____________.

It’s also what allows me to look with eyes wide open into the mistakes of my past.

Which brings me to this:
I messed up.
I made a mistake.
I lost track.
Oops.

Here it is, the last day of 2012….
In a Leap Year…
Which should have 366 days…

And the top of my blog says Day 364.

How did that happen?
Where did I go wrong?
What part of auto-pilot didn’t work?

I spent a few minutes looking back over my posts and can’t find the offending days that decided not to show up.

In the middle of my frantic research I realized I could spend another year investigating, beating myself up, and questioning the issue…

Or I could Cowboy Up and move on.

I chose the latter.

Why?
Because, after spending an entire year learning to fear less and love more, I have learned something so precious and sacred.

It is this:

We all deserve love.
And we all make mistakes.

Nobody’s perfect.

Sometimes it’s the imperfections that create the biggest lessons, best character, and most surprising moments.

Sometimes it’s the unplanned plans that lead to the most perfect path.

Sometimes, it’s not worth questioning what should have been, might have been…
Should have…
Would have…
Could have….

Sometimes the best action is just to move forward — from where you are. And, that, I believe, may be the most fearless act of all.

So today is Day 364.
In a year of 366 days.

In a way, I like keeping a spot for two extra days, holding a flame, and an unwritten page for the gift we are all given — time.

Speaking of Father Time — he’s calling my name.
Yours too.

Because I think we’re really going to make it through 2012, despite what all the Mayans and naysayers seem to believe.

So I will say it now…. Happy 2013.

Let’s move Fearlessly Forward despite any of the mistakes, messes or miscalculations.

Let’s leave the “oops” behind.
Forgive. Forget. Forge forward.

All my love,
xo~Jamie

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P.S. Tomorrow is a new year and a new promise — and I can’t wait to share with you!! Plus, this next year, you can join in here.

Day 363: isn’t it ironic :: summer street

30 Dec

Irony:
Happening in the opposite way to what is expected, thus typically causing wry amusement.

Today, Justin’s mother and I stumbled upon this winter wonderland view and we both laughed out loud saying, “How ironic!”

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I find it ironic that Summer Street was cased with snow — not to mention that I (flip flop girl!) ended up in the middle of winter this winter.

It was a bit of a surprise for us to land on Minot Beach, and I am honestly surprised at how fun it has been too.

Today it was fun to see snow collected at the beach.

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Not to mention Justin’s new orange hat!

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And Justin’s mother scale the huge rock on the beach in a single bound…

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With Brady in tow!

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Isn’t it amazing what we think we can’t do before we do it.

Like snow on Summer Street.
Winter on the beach.
Hats that are orange.
Climbing a big, old rock.

It’s kind of ironic. 
And I kind of love it. 

 

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Fearlessly Forward!

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The Promise Daily is a little inspiration and a kick in the pants! (In the most loving way.)

Because you have goals — and I want to help you stick to them.

All you have to do is sign up here.

The Promise Daily officially starts on January 1st, but you can sign up now.
My gift to you!

xo~
Jamie

Day 362: what a tweeze

29 Dec

Sometimes the oddest gifts…
are so cherished.

Like my brand new Christmas tweezers.

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Who knew it would come down to this?

It’s hard to imagine there could be a time in a woman’s life when a pair of quality tweezers is a necessity, a prized possession, a good friend.

As a child, I remember my mother kept a pair of tweezers in her makeup bag and I often thought, “What are those for?”

In my young life tweezers were a necessity for an errant splinter — only.

As a towheaded child (not two-headed child, mind you) with blondie shades of hair and barely a set of eyebrows above my lids, I didn’t understand the need for a quality pair of tweezers — let alone an emergency pair of tweezers kept in a woman’s purse.

Then I turned thirty.
And hair sprouted from the most unexpected place on my face …my cheek.

My cheek?
How could this be?
Why did this happen?
MAKE. IT. STOP.

Then I turned thirty-five and finally succumbed to the fact that it was never going to stop.

Which is just a long story to tell you why I LOVE my new pair of tweezers that Santa brought me. They are a prized possession. A good friend. A necessity.

If you were to ask me what I got for Christmas this year, I might show you my new, shiny red ring. Or my fabulous new sweater. Or that awesome new coat and gloves.

But, deep down inside, if I had the honesty of a six-year-old, I would show you my new pair of tweezers.

Much like when I asked Justin’s little six-year-old niece what gifts she received for Christmas.

Despite her brand new American Girl doll, fabulous new pink, play tent, new Barbie Doll, and a balloon rocket launcher, she replied:

“A garbage can!”

That’s right, a garbage can.
It was something she really wanted for a long time.

True gifts can come in the strangest packages. 

Like garbage cans.
And tweezers. 

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My Gift To You

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The Promise Daily is a little inspiration and a kick in the pants! (In the most loving way.)

Because you have goals — and I want to help you stick to them.

All you have to do is sign up here.

The Promise Daily officially starts on January 1st, but you can sign up now.
My gift to you!

xo~
Jamie

Day 361: dream more

28 Dec

Dream more.

A good friend sent this to me recently, and tonight it caught my eye.
Again.

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Because it’s that good.
And it’s a good reminder of everything I’ve been working on this year.

Dream more.
Complain less.
Listen more.
Talk less.
Love more.
Argue less.
Hope more.
Fear less.
Relax more.
Worry less.
Believe more.
Doubt less.
Play more.
Work less.

How about you?

2013 more.
2012 less?

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(And, in case you’re wondering what to do next year…)

Your Fearless New Year

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The Promise Daily is a little inspiration and a kick in the pants! (In the most loving way.)

Because you have goals — and I want to help you stick to them.

All you have to do is sign up here.

The Promise Daily officially starts on January 1st, but you can sign up now.
My gift to you!

xo~
Jamie

Day 360: 725 reasons to stick with it

27 Dec

Today marks my 725th blog post.

That’s 725 days (in a row!) of keeping my promise.

Whenever I hit a milestone like this I think, “Wow.”

And then, before I know it, I hit another milestone and think, “How.”

I’ve come to believe that it’s all in the promise. 

Because promises are sacred.

This year my promise has been to love more and fear less.  It has sent me on adventures forcing me to face my fears head-on, including spiders and scorpions and all the creepy crawly things that use to make me scream. That includes the creepy crawly things in my  heart.

More than anything I have learned the incredible depth of love.

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The surprising aha for me?
Learning true love is a more difficult lesson than facing my fears. I don’t mean the kind of woo woo, fairytale, dreamy love. I mean the transformative kind.

So, after all this time, I finally realize that it all comes down to two things:

Boundaries and forgiveness.

  • Boundaries: just a fancy word for self respect.
  • Forgiveness: a state of mind to let love in.

To that I say….
Let love rule.

Oh, yeah… and a happy 725 days.
xo~
Jamie

P.S. Don’t give up!

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Your Fearless New Year

the promise daily, the promise 365

The Promise Daily is a little inspiration and a kick in the pants! (In the most loving way.)

Because you have goals — and I want to help you stick to them.

All you have to do is sign up here.

The Promise Daily officially starts on January 1st, but you can sign up now.
My gift to you!

xo~
Jamie

Day 359: and a fearless new year

26 Dec

Christmas is over.
The year is winding down.

Which makes me wonder…
Where did the time go?

And then I remember the good news…
We have an extra day this year.

Who cares if that extra day was in February?
We still have time to celebrate …right?

And, what better way to celebrate an old year than to make plans for a New Year.

It’s time to start over.
Hit the restart button.
Do a redo.
Begin again.

I love the sound of that.

It’s time to start over!
Hit the restart button!
Do a redo!
Begin again!

I, for one, want more abundance.
What do you want more of or less of next year?
What will you do different?

xo~
Jamie

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My Gift To You

the promise daily, the promise 365

The Promise Daily is a little inspiration and a kick in the pants! (In the most loving way.)

Because you have goals — and I want to help you stick to them.

All you have to do is sign up here.  The Promise Daily officially starts on January 1st, but you can sign up now.

My gift to you!

Day 358: 12 days of christmas :: the best gift of all

25 Dec

Today I found out some good news.
I have a brand new baby nephew in my family!

Just in time for Christmas.
And it’s times like these that remind me what “Christmas” is all about.

Like:

Great moments with family…

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A table to gather around….

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Beautiful and thoughtful gifts…

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Toys that fly…

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And the best gift of all…
Is always the thing that I can’t see, touch, hold or unwrap.

It comes in a memory or a moment.
It finds me with a smile, a chuckle or a tear.

It’s remembering the ones that can’t join or sit around the table. The ones who are remembered, forever loved, never forgotten and always by our side.

Tonight, I was reminded of this as we watched the John Edward Christmas special The Five Live.

Because while not all the ones we love are with us — they are always with us.

We are never alone.
And that’s the best gift of all. 

Merry, merry Christmas.

Lovemore,
Jamie

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My Gift To You

the promise daily, the promise 365

The Promise Daily is a little inspiration and a kick in the pants! (In the most loving way.)

Because you have goals — and I want to help you stick to them.

All you have to do is sign up here.  The Promise Daily officially starts on January 1st, but you can sign up now.

My gift to you!

Day 357: 12 days of christmas :: twas the night before christmas

24 Dec

Twas the night before Christmas,
and all through the house…

There were at least four creatures stirring,
(hoping to catch some turkey before it hit the floor.)

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We are nestled in pajamas all ready for bed,
While visions of Iron Man on blue ray,
dance through all the boys’ heads.

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Snow is on the way.
The shopping is all done.
Presents are opened.
Songs have been sung.

Some gifts came from a boyfriend
In the form of a (right hand) ring
To replace the one that broke last year
That belonged to Mama Sling.

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The holiday just started,
And now it is almost over.
But the best is yet to come,
Because it is the memories we’ll savor.

Gone will be the tree,
Off will melt the snow.
Down will come the wreaths,
A wassailing we won’t go.

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But right now it is Christmas Eve,
A very special holiday.
So how appropriate it should be,
That it is also Lovemore Monday.

And that’s why…
I. Love. It.

Merry Christmas to you and yours.
(And …to all a good night!)
xo~Jamie

Day 356: 12 days of christmas :: pajamas

23 Dec

Two days.
Christmas nears.

Today Kim and I ran around town looking for the final pièce de résistance.

As did everyone else in the northern hemisphere judging by the parking lot at The Burlington Mall.

Good thing Eileen Fisher came to our rescue.

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Because tonight we opened “ze gifts.”

Christmas comes early when you coordinate 20 busy schedules as we did tonight with Justin’s family.

And that brings me to this.
There are two things I really love:

I love Christmas.

I love pajamas.

So what could be better than Christmas+Pajamas?

How about 20 people all dressed in the same matching set of pajamas all around the Christmas tree?

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From short to tall.
From young to old.
From tiny to not so tiny.

As we all paraded around in our Christmas PJ’s it brought me back to the Christmas of my youth.

It brought me back to Mama Sling’s rule that we could open one gift on Christmas Eve. To Mama Sling’s uncanny ability to steer us in the direction of the one box with our Christmas pajamas waiting inside.

There was always something magical that happened when you went to sleep in your Christmas pajamas. Santa left presents under the tree. You woke up to yummy smells. And sometimes, just sometimes, you woke up to a blanket of snow.

But the best part of all was always the sweet, sweet dreams.

From my heart to yours.

Merry Christmas.

Sweet dreams.

Lovemore,
Jamie

Day 355: 12 days of Christmas :: santa claus is coming to town

22 Dec

Making a list.
Checking it twice.
Gonna find out who’s naughty or nice…
Santa Claus is coming to town.

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As we gather tonight for our family Christmas it looks as if the man in the red suit already made it to town.

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And as I sit before the tree piled high with presents and the grandeur of twinkling lights, it has me wondering – was I naughty or nice this year?

Did I live up to my own expectations?

Did I do all I set out to do?

Was I truly love more and fear less?

Was I nice to my friends and family?

And in some ways, the hardest question of all — was I nice to myself?

I’m making a list and checking it twice.

So here’s to being less naughty and more nice!

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