Archive | January, 2013

GIFT DAY 031: it’s so hard to keep my mouth shut

31 Jan

It is the last day of January.

The first month of the year has flown by.

Hard to believe, isn’t it?

How are those New Year Resolutions treating you?

I find that it’s a daily commitment, this goal thing. And, actually, it’s more of a promise for me. Because promises are deeper, more personal, more pressing and most important.

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So far, I’ve kept my promise to give a gift away each and every day this year.

But it hasn’t been easy. I’ve almost missed some days and had to log-on to the iTunes Store at the eleventh hour just to send a quick gift off to a special friend.

Those gifts are no less important, just rushed.

So far my promise has me questioning, “Just what is a GIFT anyway?”

Some days it’s purely physical, material goods.
Other days it’s my time and attention (which is admittedly hard to focus).

Most days though, my gifts are love.
And those are the best ones.

Today for instance, I met a new friend and couldn’t help but burst at my seams to recommend a book for her to read. Later on, as I sat in my car, I thought, “She must think I’m crazy pushing a book on her.”

But the more I thought about it the more I realized my action came from love. You see, when I KNOW about something that will help someone else, well ….


The problem is (and I know this to be true) all the information and books in the world will not do what one moment of listening will.

I realize that I should have kept my mouth shut.
Which is sometimes the hardest act of will but the biggest act of love.

It’s a gift.

More tomorrow.

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GIFT DAY 030: bliss you and bless you

30 Jan

I am diving in!

To this abundance thing.

Last night I listened to Marianne Williamson’s live webcast about her new book, which is all about ABUNDANCE.

The book is called The Law of Divine Compensation: On Work, Money, and Miracles and I shouldn’t have been surprised by the underlying tenant of her talk.


Which, by now, I should have guessed from my own year of LOVEMORE+FEARLESS adventures.

(By the way, thank you PAM for the awesome “Fear Less Love More” birthday box!)

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But, here’s something that struck me today as I reflected on Marianne’s words from last night.

It occurred to me that to create BLISS we must BLESS.

It’s like a formula of sorts.

One little letter separates the two words, but together they equal powers greater than we can imagine.

Marianne made it clear last night that praying and love are the secret sauce.
As in…

  • You want to sell more? Bless your customers.
  • You want a better boss? Bless your current boss. 
  • Want more money? Bless your co-workers, clients, employers, everyone.

“Blast your workplace with love,” were Marianne’s exact words.

So, here’s to a year of abundance.

“Bless you,” I say.
And that’s nothing to sneeze at.

More tomorrow.

{Want to bless someone? Make it public in the comments section below.}

GIFT DAY 029: 29 days in a row

29 Jan

Today marks my 29th Day of Gifts! 

Which is the title of the book that inspired my promise this year.

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It’s also the underlying, daily activity of my 365 commitment to “abundance.”

So far, I’ve given away things like:

  • iTunes songs 
  • Books 
  • Prayers
  • Thoughtful emails 
  • Beer
  • Heart-shaped rocks 
  • Thank you letters
  • Coffee
  • Journals
  • A baby gift

And thus far, a few important and amazing things have already happened in my life, including…

The birth of the BABY of said “baby gift.”

Her name is Sasha and she was welcomed into this world last week (the day before my birthday – yay!).

For me, it’s a good reminder about WHY I am giving away a gift a day.

Sure, it’s about my exploration of abundance.

But it is also about my commitment to life — and the ones I love.

After-all, giving a gift is really just reaching out and touching someone your know, just met, ran into, laughed with, longed for or loved.

It’s an exchange of energy. A nod to the living and all those little moments that tie us together for eternity.

I’m finding that it’s much like opening a door. Once it is opened we walk through it not always knowing what is on the other side.

And, that leads to mistakes.
Like this weekend.

After my friend Jenn bought me ice cream for my birthday I had the BRILLIANT idea to pay it forward.

So before I left Nona’s ice cream shop in Hingham I boldly (AND LOUDLY) announced to the man behind me in line that I was “GOING TO PAY FOR HIS ICE CREAM!”

How nice! How lovely! How sweet…. oohs and ahs all around.

Then I pulled out my credit card and the cute little thing behind the register frowned and replied, “We only take cash.”

“CASH?” I thought. “I haven’t carried that in my wallet since 1998.”

Plan thwarted. Embarrassment ensued. Gift halted.
I left sad and gift-less.

Later that night, I meditated on what to send for my daily gift as the clock was ticking down to midnight — and then it dawned on me. Literally. I sent my sister DAWN a copy of The Downton Abbey Chronicles via Amazon. I knew she would love it.

When I awoke I had a surprise little note back from her with a book she lent to me — To Marry an English Lord.

It’s an exchange, this gift giving thing. And it’s lovely.

Almost as lovely as a new, bouncing, baby girl.

Welcome dear, little Sasha.
You are loved.
And YOU my dear, are an amazing gift.

Here’s to a year of abundance.

More tomorrow.

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GIFT DAY 028: an ugly duckling, secret swan and message to dream big

28 Jan

Our little friend returned today.

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She is certainly graceful and lovely.
At least I think “she” is a she.

She is a swan.
And, as she circled the tidal pools today, I was reminded of something said to me long ago.

“Ugly duckling.”

It was junior high, at the height of my ugly duckling phase. A friend told me her mother called me an ugly duckling. It was meant to be a compliment. Like a dose of hope for the future that I might grow out of my present.

Like there was reason to keep dreaming.

Admittedly, I was an awkward female giant at six feet tall with feet the size of boats (possibly battleships given the amount of times I tripped over them).

Add to that a 1980’s perm and some serious plastic framed glasses and, well …you have an oversized, teenage, ugly duckling to rival Big Bird.

Today, I thought of that scrawny, awkward, four-eyed, beanpole, tower of a girl.

She may have been an amazon without a date…

But she was funny.
I mean, seriously… FUNNY.

And she was smart with a dose of kindness and a big thoughtful heart too.

When I think of that little girl I realize she was something else.

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She was a secret swan.
Because she had dreams.

Not dreams to grow up and out of being an ugly duckling. No. She had dreams of growing up to BE.

She wanted to be a lots of things: an archeologist, an architect, a travel agent, a sports agent…even a stand up comedienne.

It was all about what she would get to do, be, create, find, explore…

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Which brings me back to that graceful, beautiful swan outside our door today.

As she explored the water, diving for food, swimming with grace, we snapped her photo and I nodded and smiled a knowing smile in her direction.

As if to say thank you.
Because her visit felt like a reminder to keep dreaming.
And dream big.

More tomorrow.

P.S. Thanks for the photos Justin!

{Dreaming big? Share in the comment section below.}

GIFT DAY 027: let them eat cake!

27 Jan

My friend Jenn treated me to ice cream cake today, as a little birthday gift.

It was fun and ironic since we met working in the Baskin-Robbins marketing department.

It was funny too.

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Because I almost dropped the cake on the floor while trying to take this photo.

You can call me sticky fingers.
Or we can just blame it on the moon.

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The full moon has been incredible these past few nights.

Apparently Native Americans named January’s moon after the wolf who howls the loudest in the coldest month of winter.

The Wolf Moon.

Around here it’s been pretty big, amazing and beautiful rising up over the ocean and reflecting back on the water.

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Justin snapped these photos which are so stunning.

Seeing the moon so big and bright makes me think about the power of light.

So here’s to a week of shining your brilliance.

More tomorrow.

{Feel like howling at the moon? Share in the comments section below.}

GIFT DAY 026: another birthday… keep calm and carry on

26 Jan

I stayed in my pajamas until 2pm today watching Dowton Abbey reruns.

Keep Calm and Carry On

It was a glorious way to start my birthday.

I usually take the dogs for their early morning walk. But this morning, Justin took over that duty. He also brought me breakfast in bed and some gifts to open.

Specifically, he gave me the gift that I accidentally discovered a few weeks ago (that his mother hid in our spare bedroom). But I promised not to open it early and I kept my promise.

When I opened one of the gifts this morning, I laughed out loud. It was like seeing an old friend staring back at me saying, “Keep Calm and Carry On.”

You see, over a year ago, I dropped my beloved coffee cup on the hard tile floor of our winter rental. It broke into pieces.

It broke my heart.

Because it wasn’t just any old coffee cup. It was my Keep Calm and Carry On mug.

Now, I literally have the bandages to piece it back together.

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Of course the coffee mug is long gone. But, I love the idea of bandages, a survival kit, with a little message to take a deep breath and stay calm.

I hope to only use them in times of insignificant need — no mortal wounds or anything.

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Like, maybe when I have a bad day I will just strap one to my forehead.

Or, when important plans go awry, I will stick one over my heart.

I could divvy them up and place a few in my car, near my desk, in the kitchen …just as little reminders that things are never as bad as we think.

And …next to the mirror in the bathroom.

So when I see a few of those birthday wrinkles I can just place a Keep Calm and Carry On message right over it.

Because it’s usually just minor — the stuff that we think is broken. And most of the time, it’s nothing that a bandage can’t fix.

More tomorrow.

{Happy birthday today to Andrea Eggbert! We always shared a birthday in grade school and I wish her the best on her special day.}

GIFT DAY 025: fridays are for television

25 Jan

Glorious day.

My gift today in my quest for abundance was coffee and a scone.

But, not just any coffee and scone.

I coffee’d with a friend today. And, you must meet her too — if you haven’t already.

Meet Lisa.

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She’s fun, funny, smart, bright, a mom, a marketer… and awesome.


That’s her blog. Lisa writes a blog about TV. And it’s called TV IS AWESOME.

How awesome is that?

But it’s not just any TV blog, it’s like the smarty pants girl guru version of a TV blog. She dissects the stories and the characters and makes connections that I wouldn’t know to make — because she was a Lit major.

But it’s so easy to follow it’s kind of like sitting next to her on the couch with a pint of ice cream and a box of Kleenex watching the tube.

As we chatted and talked and sipped and shared today — which was SUCH A GIFT — I kept thinking about that Joseph Campbell quote.

“Follow your bliss.”

Bliss. Abundance. Have to be related right?

More tomorrow.

{Have a favorite TV SHOW? Dish on the comment section of the blog.}

GIFT DAY 024: no hot water and accidental birthday gifts

24 Jan

It’s cold here!

We woke up to no hot water.

But we celebrated Brady’s birthday anyway.
He’s now a year old.

It’s hard to believe that this little guy…

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…Turned into this big guy.

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It’s also hard to believe how fast times flies.

But I think it was even harder to wake up to NO HOT WATER. Which is fine when it’s warm outside, but it was a freezing, arctic landscape this morning.

I mean like …maybe 4 degrees? 5 tops.

(Which, amazingly, didn’t stop this swan from swimming in the tidal pools outside!)

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We quickly discovered that our water pipes froze overnight in the arctic wind. So we dismantled the guest bedroom to find space to put two heaters in front of the water heater — all to de-ice the machine that delivers my beloved hot showers.

Turns out my birthday gift was hiding in that room.

Who knew? I certainly didn’t.
Not the first time I walked into the room. Or the second …or the third.

Finally, Justin gave up and gave me my birthday gift a few days early.

coffee maker

A KEURIG coffe maker…
And, I believe it just might have the warmest water in the entire house!

Oh, wait. I take that back… this just in…

Excuse me, I think I need to take a shower. And then I need to make myself a cup of coffee. Or hot cocoa. Or tea.

Oh! The options are (hot and) endless!

More tomorrow.

P.S. Drat! I don’t have my gift of the day figured out yet. I’m working on it and will report back tomorrow.

{What is the best birthday gift you have ever received? Spill the beans in the blog comment section below}

GIFT DAY 023: JOY! to the world

23 Jan

I’m obsessed with the word “joy” today.

I’ve been obsessed with words lately. Mostly because of my promise this year to explore abundance.


The more you say the word out loud the funnier it sounds. And, really, I have yet to meet anyone who defines “abundance” the same way.

I have a sneaking suspicion that JOY is what ties abundance together. So today I took my interest to Pinterest.

Here’s what popped up on my screen when I searched for JOY:

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You’ve got clothes, books, children, food …you name it and everything else including the kitchen sink.

And some cute puppy photos too.

Although, my very favorite JOY pin is this one titled:


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So here’s to determination and joy.
Maybe that combination is the underlining meaning of abundance? Stick with me, we’ll find out…

More tomorrow.

P.S. I shared my gift of the day on The Promise Daily — sign up if you haven’t yet. It might bring you joy?

{What does JOY mean to you? Ponder over a pot of coffee, call your best friend, or share with me on the comment section of the blog below.}

GIFT DAY 022: a small gift

22 Jan

I admit it. 

I have been listening to country music today.

As I woke up to snow on the beach this morning I thought, “I am far from the ‘country’ where I grew up.”

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There is no ocean in my hometown.

There is snow. Lots of it. But the snow covers rocky mountains, dessert brush, and wide open lava rock plains.

As the country music streamed through my “Sugarland” Pandora channel today, I couldn’t help but think of that little Idaho girl inside of me.

It was as if she was yelling “Hey Ya’ll!”

(Actually, we never said the word “Y’all” where I grew up. We said things like “darn it” and “dang” — and by the way — nobody says “dang” out here on the east coast.)

Coming “Out East” for college was a big eye opening moment for that little Idaho girl.

I quickly learned:

  • A “Pop” is not a soda
  • A “Show” is not a movie
  • A “Bubbler” has nothing to do with bubbles

And, most important, over my last twenty-year adventure across the east coast I have realized people are really the same wherever you go. Despite the different words, accents, clothing, jobs, education and lifestyles…

  • We all care about love and family and dreams. 
  • We all want our children to enjoy boundless opportunities. 
  • We all want access to good, healthy, yummy food.

Deep down inside we’re all the same no matter what coast, mountain or plain it snows — or doesn’t.

So my gift today is just this: a simple, small, tiny but important reminder (a prayer if you will) that we all want pretty much the same things.

And doesn’t that sound like a good, old fashioned country song?

More tomorrow.

{Feel free to share what you think, love, or like in the comment section below.}

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