TP365/Year 10:: Connections – Shelley

6 Oct

Today’s connection is dedicated to one of my favorite healers and acupuncturists. Or maybe I should say acupuncturist and healer because she is both.

Her name is Shelley and she is AH-mazing!

Today I had a regularly scheduled acupuncturist treatment, but it always feels more like visiting a sister or maybe an aunt. Definitely someone who is in tune with both my heart and soul.

In fact, it was Shelley who I first saw when that pesky lump popped up in my throat eight years ago. As I sobbed on her treatment table she reassured me everything was going to be okay. And it was.

It’s easy to say that now, as I look back in time, but back then, when I was a frightened and frazzled, it wasn’t so easy to believe.

I think that’s why I love this painting that sits opposite the treatment table in her office. I stare at it during my treatments and it feels like I can step right into that boardwalk. It is as if there is always a reminder to keep walking the path, to keep moving forward, no matter what feels hard or heavy.

I’m pretty sure it’s not just her needles that help people heal but her angelic heart too.

Thank you, Shelley, for all the healing and the hope. This one’s for you!

More tomorrow,
Jamie

TP365/Year 10:: Connections – Judy

5 Oct

Today’s post is dedicated to my dear friend Judy!

Judy and I first met at Dunkin’ Brands (way back when) and now we work together (again!). It’s been a fun path to watch the way our careers have ebbed and flowed and met up again.

Even though we now work together (again) we haven’t had a lot of time to really catch up. One part because of the last year of lockdowns and the other part because of the everyday pace of work and life.

So, today, since this year is all about genuine connections I asked Judy if we could catch up over lunch. It was so fabulous!

We reminisced about past times and past coworkers and shared stories about life. We even reminsinced about the Mayor of Dunkin’ Brands. His name was Frank Griswold but everyone knew him as Frank – or The Mayor. Because he was.

Frank manned the front desk of the office and knew everyone’s names. He would scold me when I worked too late leaving the office after dark and greet me with a big smile in the morning. He was more than the front desk or the greeter or the man who handed out guest badges — he was the embodiment of culture. Frank passed away a few years ago and it sent ripples through the network of people who knew and worked with him.

Reminiscing today with Judy about the people of our past and where they are now, who we have lost touch with, and those we have already lost in this life, reminded me of a very important lesson: sometimes the connections we make last longer than we know or can ever imagine.

Here’s to you Frank – we’re still thinking of you!
And, thank you Judy, for the reconnection.

More tomorrow,
Jamie

TP365/Year 10:: Connections – Sheryl

4 Oct

Tonight’s post is dedicated to my dear friend Sheryl. We have been trying to see each other more often after this crazy, Covid year of isolation.

So we had dinner a few weeks ago and caught up over a meal in Downtown Boston at Eataly (yum!). Over dinner I shared the idea of The Promise 365 and some of the potential promises that I was considering and mulling over.

Sheryl is one of the most read and learned people I know, and she is always good for a mind meld to bounce ideas off of her incredibly intelligent brain.

I pondered my options:
Do I make a promise to exercise for a year? Or maybe to learn something new? Or try something new?

As we enjoyed our meal and discussed all the potential promises Sheryl lit up with a great idea.

“What if you connect with a new person each day for a year?” she casually said as if she didn’t see the bolt of lightning go through the air.

I immediately loved it and instinctively knew that it was THE PROMISE for Year 10. It was exactly what I had been craving, more human connection. BINGO!

Then Sheryl shared a study that she had read about in the New York Times. It was an article around the 36 Questions That Lead to Love and is based on work by Arthur Aron. The study covers 36 questions that help understand how to create closeness between people.

The questions are fantastic, the kind of get-to-know-you ice breakers that share insights into personal experience, values or dreams.

Questions like:

Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

Would you like to be famous? In what way?

I love these questions because they create connection between two people – and it’s scientifically proven – that mutual vulnerability creates closeness between two people.

So as we go about this year I will be asking some of these questions to you (and let’s see if it creates some more connection!)

For tonight, here’s the question of the night:

What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

I can’t wait to find out your answers! (And, we may all owe this connection to Sheryl!). Thank you for the meaningful questions and brilliant inspiration.

More tomorrow,
Jamie

TP365/Year 10:: Connections – Christine

3 Oct

Today marks a milestone. It is a homecoming sort of day. Not only is it Tom Brady’s return to Gillette Stadium it’s also the first official connection of Year 10 for The Promise 365.

I met my friend Christine at Panera Bread today but that wasn’t what we had planned.

Jamie and Christine at Panera Bread

We had actually planned to try The Farmer’s Daughter in Easton, Massachusetts. I have heard so much about this amazing place and we couldn’t wait to try it. However, when we arrived the crowd wrapped around the block and lining the brick wall across the street had another idea — to the tune of a one-and-a-half-hour wait. What? A 90-minute wait for brunch?

We were too hungry for that so we set off to find another option. Stonebridge Cafe it was. Until it wasn’t. They also had a too long for our tummies and schedules wait. So Panera Bread it was!

As I pulled into the parking lot I was surprised to see a Bertucci’s next door. How appropro! It was at Bertucci’s Home Office where I first met Christine so many years ago. I was Director of Marketing and She was Director of Operations. We had a symbiotic relationship (one that isn’t always found between marketing and operations departments). We worked together so well for the good of all, all of the time.

Christine has seen me through many life stages and I was so excited today to see her teenage daughter — the last time I saw this beautiful young lady she was an energetic little two-year-old.

Over brunch we caught up and I was curious to hear about the life and times of teenagers. Note: teenagers no longer “date” — they “talk” — just in case you’re trying to keep up.

In many ways today was a connection of a few kinds. Connecting with a friend, connecting with memories of an old job, and probably most important, connecting with a new generation.

It reminded me that sometimes that best way to connect is just to listen.

More tomorrow,
Jamie

The Promise 365 – Year 10 :: It’s Here!

2 Oct

It’s officially on! The new promise has begun. As I said yesterday it’s time for a new promise because so much has changed. So tonight, I’m going to tell you more about this new promise:

The Year of Connecting.

The pandemic has shaped our life and our world for almost two years now. It’s difficult to remember what this planet was like before COVID-19 cruised into our atmosphere.

Was there really a time when I didn’t check each shop window before entering to see if a mask is required? Or can I remember a time when I wasn’t being hyper-vigilant about washing and sanitizing my hands (or arms, face, feet, groceries, door knobs, or anything exposed to the elements for that matter)? I’m not sure. It feels like the distant past.

So does the thought of gathering mindlessly in person with thousands of people.

Here we are (a few weeks ago) at the first in-person concert we have attended since the lockdown. It was a mask-on event and we snapped this quick photo before it began. I must admit it was a strange experience for me. I had a slight panic attack. Not because we wore masks, I am completely used to those now. It was because I haven’t been in a building without windows, with a crowd of people, in the dark, with loud music playing for so long. My heart raced and my eyes darted around the room to map out the nearest exit as my brow began to sweat.

It may also have been the first time I realized that not just the world has changed around me, but I have changed too. Even if in the slightest ways.

In many ways I feel so connected to technology (especially after a year of nonstop ZOOM interactions) and that has made me (and maybe you) in so many other ways feel disconnected from people.

So for this year, it is the mindfulness that I am after.

And it is the CONNECTIONS too.

The MINDFUL CONNECTIONS.

Each day I will make a connection with a human being. Maybe it will be a long lost friend. Maybe it will be the clerk at the grocery store. Maybe it will be a smile or a nod. Maybe it will be an hours long, in-depth conversation debating the problems and solutions of our time. Maybe it will be a simple question. Maybe I will challenge you to connect with someone else too. I’m not sure yet.

I do know this – each of these promises create something bigger than I can imagine. Sometimes it is a lesson. Sometimes it is a massive aha moment. This year it will be about connections and wherever that takes me is yet to be seen.

Tomorrow I will share my first connection of the year.

I’m glad you are here and along for the ride. Maybe you will be one of these connections too! I can’t wait to find out.

Lovemore,
Jamie

Guess Who’s Back?

1 Oct

That’s right! ThePromise 365 is back…and I’m so excited to see you here!

It’s feels like a new world. It’s time for a new season. And, now, we have a new promise. Welcome to October first! It’s time to turn over a new leaf. In fact, here’s a little something I wrote about the Month of October in a previous blog post:

The seasons are changing and if there is anything I have learned in this almost decade of blogging, it is this: with the seasons come knowledge. In fact, wisdom. It is the fall, the harvest, the reaping of what we have sowed that I usually figure out what the year was all about in the first place. My teacher taught me this years ago — fall is the harvest, it is the time when we begin to unlock the bounty before us.

It is time for change, that’s for sure. Before we go into the future though let’s rewind and look at where we have been in the past.

This promise stuff all started back in 2011. This was me, then, right before jumping off into the great unknown.

It all began while on a work trip to Lake Austin Spa Resort, where I decided amongst the lavender-infused massages and cucumber muddled water to give up shopping and invest in myself instead of my wardrobe (because a hot stone massage cost the same amount of money as a new dress but made my body feel so much better). 

The power of that first promise led me to make a new promise every year for nine years. They whisked me off to Paris to throw my divorcee wedding ring in the fountain at St. Sulpice, down the grand canyon camping next to scorpions, and swimming with sharks in the Bahamas in the name of facing my fears. Just as I thought I had discovered the secrets of survival, I was dealt a blow called cancer. I survived three surgeries in eleven months and learned more about myself than I ever could have imagined.

Originally, I set out to save money, invest in myself, and to take care of my head, heart, body, and soul. What really happened was this: I finally faced my fears, healed my body, and ultimately changed and saved my life.

I made nine promises over nine years: Not Shopping, Lovemore Fearless, Abundance, Peak Performance, Bliss, Yoga, Kindness, Joy and Trust.

Since then, I have posted 3,277 blog posts. I always thought I would blog for ten years but then, as Year Nine was coming to a close it seemed like I had said everything there was to say. In fact, it felt like I was repeating myself.

Then COVID-19 hit.

There’s nothing like a worldwide pandemic to change everything.

We no longer take toilet paper for granted.

I’m pretty sure we all finished Netflix.

I certainly did not have to worry about shopping for clothes for over a year. Let alone highlight my hair.

We are changed. We are in this world together, navigating a new way forward.

So, with that comes a new promise! Tomorrow, I will tell you what it is.
Here. We. Go!

Lovemore,
Jamie

JAMIE’S BLOG – YEAR 9 the last post & the grand finale

31 Dec


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I dreamt of this blog last night. Then I woke up and in a daze realizing I forgot to write a blog post. I have never missed a post in nine years. Apparently, two chocolate martinis and a night of fun with friends were enough to allow my mind to drift off to sleep without a blog in between. Maybe it’s a sign, that it is time to wrap up this adventure in blogging.

So today, I present the grand finale. The last post. The final blog. It hardly seems possible. 
There have been some amazing moments, including: 

Spa moments where this blog started: 

Paris Redo moments where I learned my name means LOVE.


Surprise moments with friends across the pond!

A fearless Swimming with Sharks moment!

Rafting the Grand Canyon moments

And there have been the years of big promises: 
Peak Performance which led me to surgery and Oprah (thank you Kim!)

There was a year of Bliss and Mary Poppins! 

And that year of Kindness where we finally tied the knot — as a surprise pop-up wedding at the family reunion in Estes Park!

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There were messages of Joy…

And there was that time that I did Yoga for a Year

There were trips from the Grand Canyon

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To Lake Powell 

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To my homeland of Germany and the little town of Esslingen

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There have been friends along the way:

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There have been moments with family:

Reuniting with family: 

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And memories pulled from the scrapbook:

There was always Pup right by my side, including my suitcase:

And then there was Brady…lovable and mischievous:  

There have been teams:

Taking one for the team: 

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And there were storms: 

But the best part was surviving the storm: 

There was marching in Seattle: 

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And cheering in Boston:

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And drinking on Lake Powell

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And at music festivals:

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I have learned to fall and to fly: 

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So many of my posts and inspiration I owe to this one amazing angel, Mama Sling

And there has always been this guy, right by my side, looking out for my best interest, picking me up when I needed it, and always, always, always surprising me along the way: 

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It’s hard to believe we are entering a new decade. And yet, the timing feels right. If I have learned anything it is to follow your dreams, set a goal and make a promise. The gift is the adventure. All you have to do is show up.

Thank you for being here. Thank you for reading. Thank you for your notes of encouragement and words of wisdom. You have made a difference in my life, and this adventure would not have been the same without you. 

Happy New Year. 
Happy New Decade.
May your dreams and hearts desires find you along the way.

For one last time…Trust me!

You got this.
Lovemore

xo
Jamie

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JAMIE’S BLOG – YEAR 9 shine bright – 2 days to go

29 Dec


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There are 2 days left of The Promise 365, and tonight I am reflecting on the past decade. So much has happened in the past ten years…for a quick review:

Best Memes of the Decade
Best Movies of the Decade 
Best Albums of the Decade
Top Ads of the Past DecadeTop Lists of the Decade

If there is anything I can share, or have learned or wisdom I can impart from these past ten years, it is this: Shine Your Light. Share what you have to give, give what you have to share. Be bigger and bolder each year, and share your brilliance with this world. 

Trust me!
More tomorrow.Jamie

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JAMIE’S BLOG – YEAR 9 accomplish – 3 days to go

28 Dec


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There are 3 days left of the Promise 365. It hardly seems possible. As I sit here and look back on the last decade, and where we have been, what we have done, what has transpired and what has not, I am reminded of the gentle art of patting yourself on the back. Meaning – remember how far you have come.

Just today, Facebook sent me the annual montage of photos from the past year. It’s amazing what we can pack into a year. So in this moment of looking back and looking forward, I have this to say: remember how far you have come. It will fuel your future.

Trust me!
More tomorrow.Jamie

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JAMIE’S BLOG – YEAR 9 take a moment – 4 days to go

27 Dec

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There are 4 days left of The Promise 365, and all I can think is how much time flies. So much happens in a week, a month, a year, and almost a decade. Time seems to have sped up and yet, the daily motion of taking a moment and writing a blog makes time stand still. If only for a few minutes. And I highly recommend it.

If I could wrap up all the experiences of this blogging adventure I would say this: Take a moment to feel the moment. 

Trust me!
More tomorrow.Jamie

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