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BLOG – GIFT DAY 139 :: 30 days of love: Arianna Huffington’s secret to success, sleep your way to the top

19 May

It’s DAY 9 over here of the 30 Days of Love. We’ve already had two yummy recipes and a week-long Giveaway, some treats, a sneeze, and now, some very wise words.Today, my love to share with you is the wise words of Arianna Huffington spoken at the graduation ceremony today of my alma mater, Smith College.

Listening to Arianna today brought me back to my own graduation. As she called out to the Class of 2013 to “Redefine Success” I was reminded of my graduation day and the Class of 1996.

Back then, our commencement speaker was Anna Quindlen and she rallied the crowd by saying, “Men and women need to meet in the middle.”

Spoken like a true wise woman. And such a sign of the times — sixteen years later women and men are literally meeting in the middle, sharing work and home duties as never before. My own home life is proof of this evolution – we share the cooking, laundry, bills and business duties.

But it doesn’t mean “we are there” yet as a society.

Today, Arianna broke it down for the women of Smith in a new way. 

“What I urge you to do is to lead the third women’s revolution.” 

She was referring to our current cultural definition of success — the fixed equation of money + power. Arianna’s call was for a third metric, one founded on: 

  • Wellbeing
  • Wonder
  • Wisdom
  • Empathy
“Money and power by themselves are a two-legged stool — you can balance on them for a while but eventually you’re going to topple over. And more and more people, very successful people, are toppling over.”As she described our female plight, Arianna highlighted the fact that “success the way we have defined it is no longer sustainable, for human beings or the planet,” citing that:- women have had a 40% increased risk in heart disease
– self reported stress rates have gone up by 18%

Then, she unleashed the showstopper. 

“You don’t get to the top by marrying someone, a much simpler way is to sleep your way to the top.”

Arianna was talking about the literal “SLEEP” to prevent deprivation and burnout. It was her call to action for these young women – and it should be for all of us. 

Her message and challenge for the graduating class of 2013 is to find room for WELLBEING in the definition of success. 

“So find your place to stand, you place of wisdom and strength. And from that place lead the women’s third revolution and remake the world in your own image, according to your definition of success, so that all of us, women and men, can live our lives with more grace, more joy, more empathy, more gratitude and yes, more love. So Class of 2013, congratulations. Onward, upward and inward!”

Well said, Ms. Huffington. I couldn’t agree more.  LOVE more.

More tomorrow,
Lovemore (fearless),

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Day 266: falling into the equinox

23 Sep

It occurs to me that today is a point of balance.

The fall equinox, the point at which the day and night are once again equal.

As I return from Omega Institute, and a weekend of Women+Power, I hear these words echo through my mind.


And the words of another woman follow:

“Men and women need to come together, they need to meet in the middle.”

Those were the words of Anna Quindlen at my Smith College graduation. That was more than fifteen years ago, and Anna’s message on feminism stuck in my head like glue. I have never forgot that directive.

And, this weekend, from all the speakers and leaders and visionaries I heard the sound of another equinox, another balance forming.

It seems there is a calling to the world, a cry for action, a new vision forming that is bigger than us all.

It is a cry for help for some. A battle cry for others. And a good old fashioned painful gut wrenching cry for some.

But this time it felt different. I am left with the feeling that it is time for the magic to take hold. It is time for healing to happen. All around the world. For the world.

It seems we are in a new season. Might it be the point at which the day and night are once again equal?

To be fearless without instilling force. To do what is right and necessary. All around the world. For the world. 

Or, maybe, I was just dreaming.

This morning as I looked out on the forests, trees, and water sitting on the face of the earth and the grounds of Omega, it occurred to me that the natural order of things always knows what to do. 

A tree doesn’t contemplate where to grow.
It just grows.

Whether you are a masculine or feminine, here or there, near or far, it seems the natural thing, the next step, the necessary action is for all of us to grow.

Through every season.

Day 82: do what you love

23 Mar

It’s Day 82 and raining in New York City.
Also hailing.

I swear it was also snowing when we first touched down at JFK airport …nonetheless, it was an opportunity to bring out the rain boots and sport my new super warm and cozy hand-me-down Michigan rain coat from Mary Ellen Jones!

Tonight’s big event was seeing Ina Garten and Anna Quindlen on stage at the 92nd Y in New York City. (Thanks to you Debbie Phillips!)

There clearly was a lot of respect between Ina and Anna, and it kind of felt like a large dinner party hosted between the dynamic duo and a few hundred friends (without the homemade food of course).

And, what an amazing dynamic duo they are!
One a writer extraordinaire, one a cooking goddess.

The last time I saw Anna live on stage was at my Smith College graduation where she gave the commencement speech and I received a very important piece of paper (one that cost a lot of time and money, which ironically, I have since lost in many moves).

I remember being spellbound then.

That was fifteen years ago, and Anna’s message on feminism stuck in my head like glue. It was (paraphrasing): men and women need to come together, they need to meet in the middle.

I had the same warm-hearted feeling tonight, listening to Ina.

Ina shared the approach to creating her own brand of success:
She didn’t set out to be a brand, with a long-running TV show, bestselling cookbooks, and a whole culinary line of fabulous-ness.

She just did what she loved.
(with high standards!)

Thank you, Ina.
It is clearly proven advice.
I love it.

And, it makes me think:
The Promise 365 reminds me everyday that
Life should be lived from the inside out.

Tonight, Ina just added frosting to the cake.
Because when we all do what we love, we get to have our cake and eat it too!

How sweet that is.

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