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Day 73: how not to shop

14 Mar

Today, I promised to share my thoughts of not shopping.

This is coming from the girl who used to wake up at 5am the day after Christmas to be first in line with her mother at the mall…

To find the deal.

I’m not shopping this year, so what’s the deal?
Let me tell ya, it’s a load of deep thoughts.

Not shopping has given me more time for sure.
On a deeper note, it has specifically given me time to reflect.

As in, why do I have the urge to buy those red patterned sheets?
I already have sheets.
I don’t need more sheets.
But, I want those sheets!
The ones with the fashion prints.

When I came across theses sheets at a Naples department store, I had to rack my brain.

What gives?
What’s up with this?
What, exactly is this feeling?

The sheets were on sale!
The sheets were totally design worthy!
The sheets matched my bed spread!

But, what was really going on?

I wanted comfort and beauty.

We had just moved to Naples and were sleeping on an air mattress with the first set of sheets we could get our hands on.

Digging deeper revealed my true feelings: inside I was yearning for our bedroom to have more harmony, coziness and comfort. (I mean, c’mon, have you ever slept on an air mattress for a week straight?)

In that moment, it would have been easy to buy the red sheets to fill the void.

Without acknowledging the underlying feelings, “the void” would have resurfaced.

And, most likely, it would have resurfaced with a vengeance that could very easily turn into a spending spree of not just a real mattress but also fabulous new lamps, shades, rugs, paint colors and pillows (and not all match-y, match-y of course).

Don’t get me wrong — I believe in creating a sanctuary for self.
I also believe in comfort and great interior design too.

But, what The Promise 365 has taught me is this:
Without understanding and soothing the soul first, no amount of dressing will fill the hole inside your heart, head, or body.

Tonight, I turned to this quote in the book, A Course In Weight Loss:

“Your body today is a product of yesterday’s thinking; as your thoughts change today, your body will be different tomorrow.”

I believe the same applies to shopping.
Shopping begins in the mind first.
What we think today becomes what we buy tomorrow.

Decorating the body, home, car, or office starts with the “thought” first.
Thoughts come directly from feelings.
Then, the purchase of objects that represent the void occur.

Intrigued?
Think about the last frivolous thing you purchased.
What thoughts and feeling did you have before?


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