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JAMIE’S BLOG – DAY 332 :: tragedy to triumph

1 Dec

It’s December.

The year is wrapping up right before my eyes.  It’s hard to believe isn’t it? Just one more month of 2014 before us, a lifetime behind us. The dates on the calendar are being swept away and flying into the wind of yesterday.

In these next thirty days, I will be forming and contemplating my next promise. While at the same time I am reflecting back on what this year has brought with it. It has been one of tragedy and triumph.  Unexpected joy, unbelievable pain, unsurpassed love.

And that is the story of life.

As I tote around my new silicone set (and try not to fry them in the sauna) I am amazed at: 

  • how fast scars heal 
  • how small a DD cup actually feels! 
  • the power of intentional intention 
  • the wide, wide range of peak performance 

Peak performance has not been what I thought it would be. In true promise form, what I THOUGHT would happen this year is not really what the universe had in store.

Upon first entering my OB’s office this February, I thought I met my first potential friend in this town we moved across the country to call home. After she found the lump in my breast she sent me on the wild goose chase which landed me with fake boobs and a bucket full of gratitude for an early diagnosis.

Tonight, as I opened the door to the gym, I recognized the woman standing behind me.

“I know you!” I blurted out of surprise.  I was shocked that I actually ran into someone I recognized!  My doctor of all people! My OB that I haven’t seen in months. The first woman in this town that I thought could be called ‘friend.’

She seemed unfazed and gave me a look I read as: I don’t remember you but I’m going to be really nice anyway.

And she was nice. But as we walked down the hall to the locker room I could feel that she just wanted to escape the six foot stranger making small talk. As a doctor, I’m sure she runs into the many sets of boobs she sees in her office all over town. Part of me wanted to hug her and thank her for that early diagnosis. Part of me wanted to rip off my shirt and show her my new girls. Part of me was so embarrassed I wanted to make a beeline to the pool even though no bathing did I have on my body.

As we entered the locker room, she went right and I went left. As I sat down on the bench I had an overwhelming sensation that this too was a special sort of blessing. The kind that shows up to remind you that it’s really good news when you doctor doesn’t remember your name.

It was the triumphant sense that you have officially closed the chapter of this book.
And, that, to me, feels like the best way to begin wrapping up this year.
From tragedy to triumph. 

 
More tomorrow. 
Lovemore,
Jamie

 

 {what are your triumphs from this year?}

Jamie’s BLOG – DAY 122 :: 7 secrets for a successful surgery

3 May

It’s a wrap!

At least it feels like I have turned a corner over here. Surgery is a week behind me. I have had time to heal and reflect. So today I am sharing some of the things that have been most helpful for me.

Below is my list of the best ways I have found to move through a life event like a surgery (or, as some of my favorite little boys say: “operation”).

If you, or anyone you know, has a surgery in their future please feel free to share. Because I truly believe the process can go smoothly, with ease and grace.

1. Heal in a beautiful place.
This is my favorite tip!  It was very important for me to look forward to being in a beautiful place to heal. I chose a little town on the Oregon coast with expansive beaches to walk and waves to watch. But beauty can be anything in your own home as well. Adding even just a few beautiful touches to your bedroom or cleaning out the clutter before your recover would go a long way to create a beautiful space just for you to relax and heal.

2. Lean on others.
I have no idea how I would have healed if I didn’t have the support of Jaynane and Justin. There are so many little things I couldn’t do for myself (like pull up my pants or put my left arm into a shirt sleeve). I relied on Jaynane to help me take a shower, dry the water off my back, and literally pull up my pants. Not to mention the help I needed to keep track of which medications to take at what times. I am lucky that Jaynane is a nurse by trade, but really, anyone who loves you could help look out for your needs, from the little ones to the big ones. It’s essential.

3. State your intention.
Throughout this entire medical process I have kept my intention set on making it an easy and smooth adventure. Part of that meant telling my friends about this intention and asking for their help to keep my spirits high. I wanted to move through this without heaviness or sorrow. My choice was to be light and focus on the beautiful moments. It was wonderful to have their love and support …and it made a huge difference!

4. Build a team.
Many people advise patients to get a second opinion. I agree, but I want to add to that. I chose to build a team to support me. This idea is inspired by Dr. Lissa Rankin who advises people to be at the center of their medical team and act like the leader of many experts. Not only did I reach out to a trusted doctor friend to find the right surgeon for my needs at a hospital that I trusted, I also built a support team around me. This includes my friends and family as well as host of special people with special skills, like an acupuncturist, medicine woman, and other people in the healing arts. The most important part is to feel like you have built a team that respects your highest good and your true wishes for health and healing.

5. Release Anger.
This may be the most important tip. Maybe it should have been Number 1, regardless, it’s a crucial step for preparing for a smooth recovery. I chose to weed the garden and wield a hoe in my hand, pounding the ground and releasing my anger. Mother Nature could handle it. And for me, it was a much needed (and healthy) release.

6. Focus on the Beauty.
After the initial shock of my diagnosis, and after I had worked through my anger, I decided to focus on the beauty — all the beautiful moments leading up to surgery and all the beauty around me in the meantime. It was in many ways a life saver. Try it…. it’s amazing and powerful and healing. You may be surprised what you see.

7. Breathe.
Finally, my last tip, while it is quite obvious, is good for the head, heart, body and soul. Just breathe. Taking deep breaths increases oxygen to the body which tells your cells that all is well. While stress shuts down the breathing reflex which decreases oxygen and starts the fight or flight response. So breathe. Deep, deep breaths will slow down your system and bring you back to a neutral state of mind. Which is so important as you make these important medical decisions.

Whew!  Onward and upward we go. May you and your loved ones have good health and a smooth healing journey.

More tomorrow.
Lovemore,
Jamie

{what are your secrets for healing success?}

GIFT DAY 063: do you love your scars?

4 Mar

I have an abundance of scars.

Like the scar that runs down the center of my belly and the scars on both of my knees. There are scars on my hand and calf too.

They each have a story.
All lessons in courage, strength and faith.

The scar on my belly came from a cancer diagnosis. It taught me abut healing and gave me faith in life. I used to pull my shirt up and share my belly scar with strangers. I was so proud of it, as if it were bragging rights.

The scars on my knees came from a sand volleyball court. They remind me to go after my dreams and take a leap even if it means digging in deep.

The scars on my hands taught me all about puppy love. And, the scar on my calf, well …it taught me about how to avoid the kind of dogs who bite.

Justin is working on a new scar.
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The initial wound came from an unfortunate bounce from that pink buoy that washed ashore the other day. It bounced right up and hit him in the eye.

Who knew that those things have hard handles that attack?

(Good thing we have a few Keep Calm and Carry On bandages in stock!)

His eye will heal.
But just like my scars, only the story will remain. Which is the best part of a scar anyway — bragging rights!

I love my scars.
But the ones I love the most are the ones I cannot see.

They are the scars on my heart and inside my soul. The ones that healed through an abundance of love, prayer, reflection, time and faith.

The scars we can’t see are the ones we remember most. They are the stuff heroes are made of and the ones worth living for.

And, I think, they are the scars that make us truly beautiful — and alive.
Oh yeah… and those bragging rights too.

More tomorrow.
Lovemore,
Jamie

{Do you have scars your proud of? Do share in the comments section below.}


You Can Do Anything

I fundamentally believe we can do anything. YOU can do anything. But, time is running out if you want to join me in the process!

Registration for YCDA 2013 coaching group ends March 11 at midnight. If you want hands-on support for your promise, group encouragement, and a bigger commitment to stick to your goals, just click here!

xo~Jamie

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