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Day 346: cut up, burned out and fried

12 Dec

Cut it out!
Tonight, that is precisely what I did.

All the innards of my bras now lay in the garbage can.

Well, at least the metal fillings do, the underwire part of the bra that promised cleavage —something I’m not sure I ever had, even with my best and brightest bras I bought.

So, now, they be gone.  It was a little tip from Donna Eden this past week as I sat in one of her workshops and she explained how the little spindly wires interact with the body’s energy systems and clog toxins around the breast, lungs and heart.

Turns out there is an entire book dedicated to bras and breast cancer called Dressed to Kill.  I haven’t read it yet, but I feel like I have enough information to cut out the metal caps of my own cloth cups.

Speaking of…
“Cutting it out” could be the answer to many issues, including what I promised to write about today — burnout.

I learned a bit more about burnout this past week from Joan Borysenko.

You know my friend Burnout right?
I’m sure you’ve met before, at some point in time in your life.  Ironically, the term “burnout” was first coined the year of my birth, 1974.

Here are the top three symptoms:

– Emotional exhaustion, that feeling of having your plug pulled out of the socket. It’s a feeling of being depleted emotionally and physically.

– Compassion fatigue, feeling like you’ve lost the ability to empathize, maybe you become short with others or your otherwise glass-half-full-self feels cynical.

– Loss of competence and confidence. Enough said. 

The problem is, apparently burnout is often diagnosed as depression, which is then unnecessarily overmedicated.  The real difference between burnout and depression is that rest will resolve burnout, where it won’t make a dent with depression.

As Joan explained this weekend, the first step to burnout is in most cases the passion and the purpose that comes with a calling.  A dream job.  A higher purpose.  Something that takes all of you down a path in life.

Some tell-tale signs include:

  1. Being driven by an ideal
  2. Working like a maniac
  3. Putting your own needs last
  4. Feeling miserable and being clueless why
  5. The death of values
  6. Feeling frustrated, agressive, cynical
  7. Emotionally exhausted
  8. Destructive self comfort
  9. Isolation
  10. Inner emptiness
  11. Feeling like who cares and who bothers
  12. Physical and metal collapse

(Sounds to me like the trip I took down Corporate America Lane.)

In general, the problem with burnout is that it usually ends in accidents (like car accidents) from the mental collapse and physical exhaustion.

There is hope! And it starts by CUTTING IT OUT.
The best advice Joan gave was to start by stopping.

Stop doing.
She suggests making a compassionate connection, maybe with nature or people or some activity that brings you joy.  And, to stop doing anything that drains your energy.

If you want to see more, her CNN video is here: Fried Video and her book is here.

Whether it’s bras or burnout, the bottom line is — we all need good, quality support. Even better when it’s comfortable too. 

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