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JAMIE’S BLOG – YEAR 9 – DAY 188 :: trust the beauty

7 Jul


We drove the south coastline today winding through little seaside towns and beautiful picturesque downtowns and stores. It made me think about my very first promise not to shop, because, I was shopping in the most wonderful sense of the word. 

Jaynane and I were together, shopping and oohing and ahhing at all the little beautiful things looking for dresses and skirts and jewelry and presents. This is a partnership I know well, it is one my Mama Sling taught to me. To appreciate beauty. Not in the sense of the torrid and turbulent definition of beauty standards but to appreciate the beauty within. 

Because beauty is a feeling. 

I used to think beauty was a very specific thing, a look, a shape, a fabric, a cut, a design, an art. But it’s really the art of feeling. And when we feel we are alive. We are here. We are present. 

Which is the best present of all. 
Trust the beauty within. 

Trust me!
More tomorrow.


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Day 86: se vende?

27 Mar

It feels like summertime and the shopping is easy.
Here in Mexico one can’t escape the local vendors.

They come to you.
Whether sitting at a restaurant or sitting on the beach.

Se vende?
Want a new silver bracelet?
Want a bright pink strapless beach dress?
Want a kabob with shrimp and papaya?

It’s so not easy not to shop!

Today we popped into Hotel Hafa just for a second.
The bright red wall beckoned me with an embrace.
“Come inside!” she whispered. “Just for a quick visit!”

Inside I found this amazing mirror.
The borders were bunches of roses made out of metal.
It was beautiful. It was so well crafted.
And, it was just the sort of thing I would take home …if I were shopping.

I would show you a photo but when I asked the shopkeeper if it was okay to snap a quick pic, she said, “the owners prefer you don’t.”

Clearly, they get the question frequently.

I told her about this blog, and begged for a little snap of the camera.
But, she declined. Good employee!

But, she did tell me this:
She has lived 6 years away from her Canadian homeland.
She traveled from South America to Mexico over these years.

Unfortunately she had to return home to Canada to visit an ill family member, and she described it as culture shock …because of the shopping.

When she returned to Canada, she observed this:
Consumerism runs rampant with her Northern sisters.

If they don’t have the right boots in the right color, they will just go out and buy new ones.

Yes. I know!
She could have been describing someone I know (me 87 days ago!).

Being here, makes me want to buy.
Because I want to remember the trip.

I want to remember the roosters crowing in the morning (why not buy that hand painted rooster pottery?).

I want to remember the beach and surf and long afternoons sipping margaritas sitting on the sand (how about those totally adorable Reef sandals?).

I want to hold onto the memory of Hotel Hafa’s welcoming boutique with the red walls and the silver sculpture adorning each wall (why not get that mirror?)

I want the feeling of vacation.
I want to take it all home.

And I will.
On my camera.

Se, vende?
No, gracias!

Day 73: how not to shop

14 Mar

Today, I promised to share my thoughts of not shopping.

This is coming from the girl who used to wake up at 5am the day after Christmas to be first in line with her mother at the mall…

To find the deal.

I’m not shopping this year, so what’s the deal?
Let me tell ya, it’s a load of deep thoughts.

Not shopping has given me more time for sure.
On a deeper note, it has specifically given me time to reflect.

As in, why do I have the urge to buy those red patterned sheets?
I already have sheets.
I don’t need more sheets.
But, I want those sheets!
The ones with the fashion prints.

When I came across theses sheets at a Naples department store, I had to rack my brain.

What gives?
What’s up with this?
What, exactly is this feeling?

The sheets were on sale!
The sheets were totally design worthy!
The sheets matched my bed spread!

But, what was really going on?

I wanted comfort and beauty.

We had just moved to Naples and were sleeping on an air mattress with the first set of sheets we could get our hands on.

Digging deeper revealed my true feelings: inside I was yearning for our bedroom to have more harmony, coziness and comfort. (I mean, c’mon, have you ever slept on an air mattress for a week straight?)

In that moment, it would have been easy to buy the red sheets to fill the void.

Without acknowledging the underlying feelings, “the void” would have resurfaced.

And, most likely, it would have resurfaced with a vengeance that could very easily turn into a spending spree of not just a real mattress but also fabulous new lamps, shades, rugs, paint colors and pillows (and not all match-y, match-y of course).

Don’t get me wrong — I believe in creating a sanctuary for self.
I also believe in comfort and great interior design too.

But, what The Promise 365 has taught me is this:
Without understanding and soothing the soul first, no amount of dressing will fill the hole inside your heart, head, or body.

Tonight, I turned to this quote in the book, A Course In Weight Loss:

“Your body today is a product of yesterday’s thinking; as your thoughts change today, your body will be different tomorrow.”

I believe the same applies to shopping.
Shopping begins in the mind first.
What we think today becomes what we buy tomorrow.

Decorating the body, home, car, or office starts with the “thought” first.
Thoughts come directly from feelings.
Then, the purchase of objects that represent the void occur.

Think about the last frivolous thing you purchased.
What thoughts and feeling did you have before?

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