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JAMIE’S BLOG – YEAR 7 – KINDNESS  DAY 170 :: doing less

11 Jul

Kind Time.

I am reading a very cool book (still) it’s one I picked up months ago called Real Power, Business Lessons from the Tao Te Ching (the world’s oldest leadership manual, written, according to legend, by the sage Lao-tzu in the sixth century B.C.E..)

The chapter tonight was all about doing less, or rather “Doing Nothing and Leaving Nothing Undone.” It’s a hard concept to grasp in this busy, busy, busy world. But they have a point.

We all need time to think. Time to be silent. Time to reflect. And it’s hard to find that time if we don’t unwind or disconnect to find our thoughts and brilliant ideas.

So today I did something crazy! I went to the pool and sat with my thoughts. It was wonderful – and in so many ways, so very kind.

Kind Time.

More tomorrow….

{find kind time}

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JAMIE’S BLOG – YEAR 7 – KINDNESS  DAY 143 :: 4-letter word friday

26 May


Today’s 4-letter word Friday is dedicated to that warm bubbly water. The bath. Sometimes there is nothing better than a Friday night bubble bath.

It is where I find some semblance of ease and poise and calm and grace. And that brings me to this: Self-Kindness. It feels stronger than self-care.

Self-care and self-compassion are wonderful, don’t get me wrong. But self-kindness feels deeper as if it soaks down to the core of my being instead of just a Band-Aid hovering over the top.

It is remembering to hold myself to a standard of love and kindness. And grace. Instead of perfection. Self-kindness is built out of love.

And the occasional bubble bath.

More tomorrow….

{happy friday}

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JAMIE’S BLOG – YEAR 7 – KINDNESS  DAY 112 :: oh yeah

25 Apr


Oh yeah. I’m going to bed early tonight. And all my head can think is… how wonderfully kind is that?

Be kind.

More tomorrow….


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Day 304: a day for all saints’ and self care

1 Nov

Some weeks are just made for self care.
I vote for this one.

I think I have vacillated between every form of emotion from love to fear and back again.

Between losing my wallet and praying not to lose my house in Sandy’s super stormy cycle, THEN having my wallet returned (without the cash!) and thanking my lucky stars for a home intact with electricity …. to finally watching in horror as people up and down the east coast picked up fallen trees, flooded streets and burning houses………

I. Am. Exhausted.
Aren’t you?

So today I was a little relieved to find the top 10 mobile health apps from CNN.
One of which is my beloved Pocket Yoga.

It’s a good reminder for me.
To remember to be alive while I am, um, you know, HERE.
And to take care of the one body I have.

To breathe.

And to do something.

Even if it means consciously sitting still in silence.

Or quietly watching the ocean roll by, being grateful for each moment, every crash of every wave, down to the tiniest drop of water, as if I were a lighthouse at sea.

Resilient. Steadfast. Strong.

It’s no surprise to me, that on this day otherwise known as All Saints’ Day, I am breathing in a message to live in awe.

And to awesomely,
and unequivocally, 

Day 48: f*ing friday :: facials (a love letter)

17 Feb

F*ing Fridays are back!
And, they will continue to occur on Friday. I mentioned some of my favorite F words back on Day 5 in Year 1, including: Fearless, Fabulous, Fine, Fun, Faith, Freedom, Forgiveness, to name a Few.

Last week I dove into the word  Florida. 

Today’s F*ing Friday is dedicated to the word:

As in, a love letter to self-care.

Dear Facials,

I can hardly believe it took me 37 years to meet you.  But, now… I can’t imagine this world without you.

Thank you for helping me realize the importance of taking care of my skin.  But, even more so, thank you for helping me realize the importance of taking care of me and making time for me.

I must admit, even after spending an entire year investing in my head, heart, body and soul, I still hesitate at times to fully commit to self-care.  Even though I know it is so, so, so worth it!

So, tonight, I am happy to report I dove into a simple facial I did right here at home.

It’s a good reminder of how great if feels to commit to self-care.
It’s a good reminde of all the reason why I love you.


P.S. I’ll be seeing more of you soon — I bought a deal for a Living Social facial today too!

Day 348: self care at home — think out of the box

14 Dec

A box arrived in the mail today.
And, I had to ask myself just why is opening a box so much fun?

I think boxes are connected to some primordial reflex, as if some reptilian brain chemical reaction happens when out of the corners of our eyes we spy a cardboard BOX.

So much so, as a child on Christmas morning, boxes would end up being a let down.  Pretty wrapping paper would get my daydream chemicals all a whirl.  Is it a Barbie Dream House…  A 150 Piece Art Set…  A Puppy?

And then I would open the box to find something else — socks.

Actually, these days, I would get pretty excited to open a box of socks, 348 days into this promise!

So it was today that I received a box, not of socks, but inside, there were so many goodies to grab!

It’s from Influenster and it’s called a VoxBox.
It arrived in perfect time.

Computer difficulties left me stranded on technology island this afternoon.  Before I had a complete meltdown, I remembered something else… yoga.

So while my computer backed-up I decided to rewire my brain with a little yoga routine.

Even after my rendezvous with a DVD of yoga my computer was still cranking at Pre-Neolithic speed.  (Remind me again… just what is there to do in life without a computer?)

But, then, my VOXBOX arrived.

And, while there were some items I will never use (yes, pink, leopard print paste on nails, I’m talking to you) there was one thing that fit exactly what I was looking for …a mask.

A cucumber masque, rather.

I even convinced Justin to relinquish some of the cucumbers he was cutting up for dinner in order to accomodate my spa routine.


Here’s a few tips you might find useful while engaging in self-care at home.

1. Don’t wait for your computer to crash. 

2. Dogs like to eat things.
So, maybe don’t let the dog sleep next to you as you relax and unwind ~ especially if you have cucumbers on your eyes.

Day 342: no time for self care — no excuses anymore

8 Dec

My head is so full it runneth over. 
It feels like a candle in the wind from today’s sessions, blowing back and forth between this medical methodology to that research study, to this pedagogy to that philosophy.

I loved learning it all, but it feels like a sweet candy overload to my brain.

Today, Dr. Hadaya, reiterated the importance of getting toxins out and adding in love and healthy behaviors (clean food, air and sensory input).

The bottom line was this:
We are what we believe and we are what we surround ourselves.

The advice:
Change your inputs: (positive food, air, water, people, ideas, social/spiritual)
Limit toxic inputs: (negative food, air, water, people, ideas, biotoxins)

Then Dr. Cacioppo explained how we are indeed social animals.
In fact, in one study, when people were told to focus on being happy, it didn’t work.

Apparently the message in our society that directly relates to finding “happy” is going shopping!  We go out and buy something or go out and do something and it doesn’t work.  Apparently, the participants in the study were less happy because the act of finding happy was isolating.

I guess that explains Facebook — we all just want to connect.

Then I attended a self-care workshop. 
What is the biggest obstacle to self-care?
Time and money.

We all know we should get exercise, or have a hobby, or get a massage or find a way to unwind.  But we typically don’t.  Why?  Because we think don’t have enough time.

Excuses. Excuses.
Enter Ashley Davis Bush who just published a book on Self Care Short-Cuts.

Including things as easy as affirmations/visualizations/breathwork to do when washing your hands, doing the laundry, or sitting at a red stop light.  Everyday activities that you already do, thus, you have time for.

Then I sat in Nan Lu’s workshop, where he taught the importance of following the rules of nature for healing through food.

I can’t even begin to describe the awe and amazement of his simple, yet profound recommendations (eat warm food for breakfast to keep the body active all day and avoid fatigue) and his philosophy on eating food for energy (you are what you eat and what you think.)

His work is based on Traditional Chinese Medicine and he sprinkled wisdom through the session. Like this tid bit:

Take care of your feet.  
They are the first part of the body to grow.  And, the first part of the body to die.

His words hit home as my bandaid-covered feet ached in my shoes.
So, after the session I high-tailed it the spa and booked a foot massage.  They didn’t have an opening until tomorrow, so alas, my feet must wait another day.

Finally, I sat in an energy medicine workshop and learned a few new things about bags and under wire bras.

That’s right, braziers and shoulder bags! 
Right up my alley.

Turns out those heavy bags we swing over our shoulders cut through a main meridian on the body (which draws energy out of us) and underwire bras do the same thing, except they clog toxins around the breast, lungs and heart.


I was feeling so exhausted from the information, insight and enlightenment that I ran down to the spa and sat in the sauna for a few minutes to sweat it out.  After I showered and dried my hair, I opened the little cubby locker to grab my clothes and looked at my tattered Victoria’s Secret underwire bra staring back at me.

“Traitor!”  I thought.

So, I tucked it in my bag for another day and performed the new meridian rubbing exercise around my breasts for safe measure.

Bras! Bags! Food! Energy! Toxins!

It’s enough to send a girl’s brain into overload.
But I take solace in something Nan Lu asked earlier today.

What is your promise?
What is your own destiny?
You are part of nature.
The body has skill to heal itself.
You have the key.
You already have the answer.

And, I have to agree with that.  It’s what I’ve been learning all year long.

Sure, I’ve made some major changes over this year, but the biggest one has been learning that I already have what I need — including the ability to heal myself.

So, no burning of bras necessary (although, I might need to buy new ones in 2012!)

But, I will add a few new techniques, a little more love, connection and friendship, and a lot more self-care.

Now, excuse me while I go take my bra out of my bag before I forget where I put it (wouldn’t want it to make a surprise appearance — like in the morning, when I get my wallet out of my bag to pay my bill at the breakfast table).

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