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Day 201: f*ing friday :: firing

20 Jul

Today continues the weekly series, F*ing Fridays, which will coincidentally occur on Friday. In Year One, I mentioned some of my favorite F words back on Day 5, including: Fearless, Fabulous, Fine, Fun, Faith, Freedom, Forgiveness, to name a Few.

Last week I dove into the words Fearmongers

Today’s F*ing Friday is dedicated to the word:

As in, sheer sadness. 

I am deeply saddened and confused by what happened in a movie theatre in Aurora, Colorado.

As the news updates poured in, throughout the course of the day, it only widened and worsened.

There are no words for this.
The only reasoning my mind could come up with:  it’s just not f*ing fair.

And, it’s not.

Even now, as more details are known, more stories are written and more confusion remains, a song keeps running through my head, asking, “Where is the love?

Where is the love, the love, the love?

Day 159: f*ing friday :: feminine mystique

8 Jun

F*ing Fridays are back!
And, they will continue to occur on Friday. I mentioned some of my favorite F words back on Day 5 in Year 1, including: Fearless, Fabulous, Fine, Fun, Faith, Freedom, Forgiveness, to name a Few.

Last week I dove into the word Flip Flops

Today’s F*ing Friday is dedicated to the words:
Feminine Mystique.

As in, where is the love?

Love can be puzzling at times.
It’s so hugely, largely, enormous, that word. L.O.V.E.

It can mean so many things in various degrees – family, friends, lovers, partners, children, neighbors, community, this one spinning world.

I am learning that love IS all things in this LOVEMORE journey of mine

But, I am committed to learning more. So, this week I spent every night soaking in lessons on a critical piece of the puzzle at Love University, a program offered by En*theos Academy and Mastin Kipp from The Daily Love.

To break it down, love is …from a scientific view pretty cut and dry — male energy and female energy (no matter the coupling). This is based on much research and work from the likes of David Deida, Patricia Allen, Marianne Williamson, Allison Armstrong, and more.

The work is much deeper than my little brain can compute in this tiny little blog post, so I will focus on what stood out most for me: GODDESS TIME.

For people with a core of feminine energy (me for instance) the amygdala needs to be relaxed and worry free (not in fight or flight mode) in order to truly engage in deeply connected relationship love.

The answer?  Settle down the amygdala. Turn off the f*ing fight or flight frenzy.

Otherwise known as self-care. Think bubble baths, meditation, yoga, and other ways to let feminine energy flow.

It’s amazing how something so simple can make such a huge difference. An hour to yourself. A commitment to be in charge of nothing.  A peaceful moment. A deep breath.

Proven to be good for the mind, body, soul, as well as, finding and keeping LOVE!

But, not all relationships work out. So, what to do when the proverbial shit hits the relationship fan? Mastin recommended a mantra, or a call to a higher question.

For instance:

  • Where is the grace in this?
  • How can I be even more love in this situation?

I think it’s a good practice to live by, no matter what problem, mess or complication we’re trying to solve — be it matters of the heart, career or community.

Personally, I can’t help but hear the Black Eyed Peas echoing through my head,  “Where is the love, the love, the love?

But, I know it’s hard to remember when life falls apart.
As a survivor of cancer, divorce, sugar addiction and the ultimate heartbreak of my mother’s death, I can testify that love keeps it all together, even when it seems there is nothing left.

And, I think it’s the best mantra when I need to find perspective in life, love and the pursuit of happiness.

Surviving with grace is like putting together a puzzle —
keeping love in view is like finding the corner pieces first.

With that, I leave you with the words of the Black Eyed Peas:

Take control of your mind and meditate
Let your soul gravitate to the love, y’all

Day 10: what is your theme song?

10 Jan

When I rolled out of bed this morning I couldn’t get a song out of my head.  Where is the love from the Black Eyed Peas kept running through my head, asking me over and over again, “Where is the love?  Where is the love?  Where is the love, the love, the love.”

I took it as a sign.
It’s time for a new theme song.

I believe strongly in a few things:
1.  I believe you can do anything. Because you can.
2. I believe in the power of Love.
3. I believe in having your very own Theme Song.

Last year, in The Promise 365, my theme song was Believe in Yourself by Brad, because I wanted a song to remind me that I could make it through all 365 days without buying frivolous items, taking care of my head, heart, body and soul. (And it worked!)

So, today I searched and searched for the perfect theme song, one that would help me focus on my theme of exploring LOVE and getting over my FEARS in this new promise.

And I found the perfect one.
But, before I reveal this year’s song, I want to share what I think a song needs to become your magical Theme Song:

1.  An emotional connection
2.  A sing at the top of your lungs quality, preferably in the shower but also good in the car
3.  A pick me up on your worst day of days
4.  A reminder about “why” you’re going after your goals

For this year, there were so many great options to choose from — there are so many songs that have to do with LOVE.  I considered so many and almost landed on All You Need Is Love by the Beatles, which I do love.

But, I chose a song that pulls at my heartstrings in a different way.
It reminds me that even against all odds, if we hold love in our heart, life truly is beautiful and our dreams do come true.

You see, when Justin and I first began dating long distance, he left me messages on my phone at night, singing a few lines from this song to remind me that everything was going to be okay.

Even though we were dating between the coasts of Oregon and Massachusetts, even though I was going through “the world’s worst divorce” and even though we were high school sweethearts who reconnected 15 years later, his message to me was — love is where we belong.

You may know it as a Cat Stevens classic called Don’t Be Shy.  I know the Eddie Vedder version that Justin sang into my phone at night.  I chose it because it perfectly captures the power of love and the importance of relinquishing fears — especially when we don’t know what life holds for us next.

Plus, I can sing it in the shower.
May you have a theme song in your heart, or at least on the radio, to take you through 2012.


Don’t be shy
Just let your feelings roll on by
Don’t wear fear
Or nobody will no you’re there
Just lift your head
And let your feelings out instead
And don’t be shy
Just let your feelings roll on by
On by x6
You know love
Is better than a song
Love is where
All of us belong
So don’t be shy
Just let your feelings roll on by
And don’t wear fear
Or nobody will know you’re there
You’re there, you’re there x4
So don’t be shy
Just let your feelings roll on by
And don’t wear fear
Or no one will know you’re there
You know love is better than a song
Love is where
All of us belong

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